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stigma: Saving Your Grades From A Mental Health Crisis What To Do Before, During, And After by SmartStudy.tumblr.com IF YOUR GRADES ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER CONTACT YOUR TEACHERS This should be the first thing you do when you realise you're in crisis. Email them, and explain your situation in short, professional terms. You do not have to include details about your condition. "I have a mental health condition" should suffice as to the nature of the issue. Tell them that you are going to arrange to see a medical professional as soon as possible, and ask what process you should go through to defer/get an extension on assessment, and if they can help you in any way. Other people you may have to contact or CC in the email (depending on your school): University High School Head of House Class Coordinator Faculty/School Admin Disability Advisor Grade Coordinator Head of Department Academic Admin Counsellor School Counsellor Student Advocate BOOK A DOCTOR/THERAPIST APPOINTMENT ASAP This will be the person who can vouch for you the most. It's best if you have seen them before and they know you. If you can't get an appointment within a few days, call them and email them (if you haven't seen them before this will not work). Make sure to check out what counselling your university or school offers. During this appointment, the priority is to make a plan to get you back on your feet. This effort will not be useful if you stay a mess. Once you've figured that out, get two things from this person. One is a medical certificate/letter stating that you have, in fact, been going through this crisis. Second is a letter that describes the nature of the crisis, what treatment you're going through, and which people to contact (psychiatrists, etc.) who can vouch for this. Note: The reason I say to get two letters is because there is still a huge stigma around mental illness, and you don't want to reveal that you've got a disorder that's highly stigmatised, only to have it come back and bite you in the ass later. Don't provide details unless it's necessary or asked for. A STUDENT KNOW YOUR RIGHTS AS Most schools and institutions will have a list of a student's rights and responsibilities online. Look them up. Know what your rights are as a student. Also look to see if there are state/national laws protecting you, or if your school is a part of a network of schools that has its own code. Some people working in schools still think mental health issues are trivial, and you never know when they're going to ignore a rule to suit themselves. Make sure you can pick on this if it happens to you. Pretty much all schools will have protection in place for students with mental illnesses and disabilities, so even if you a miss a deadline for a form or make another mistake, they should take your exceptional circumstances into account. This is where a student or disability advisor from school can help you. ottom IF YOU HAVEN'T REACHED CRISIS YET TALK TO A DOCTOR/THERAPIST/COUNSELLOR/TRUSTED ADULT If you're going through a hard time, talk to someone who can help you. Any trusted adult or professional can help you get back on your feet before it's too late, or refer you to someone who can. If it's a new issue, you'll have to see someone like a GP who can refer you to a therapist or mental health service. Talk to them about what's been happening, and say that you need help. Sometimes, even talking about the problem can help you feel better. In these situations, they can also help you figure out what you can do at school to catch up/get special help. FIGURE OUT HOW TO STUDY WHILE IN A BAD STATE Even if you're getting help, it might be some time before you're fully back on track. In these instances, try to make the best of a bad situation. Can't leave the house? Access lecture recordings and eBooks. Ask your friends to send you their notes, or ask the teacher if you can submit your homework via email, or through a friend. Have trouble concentrating? Figure out how long you can study without needing a break, and make a schedule around that. Always make sure to ask your teachers if they can help you with this. Whether it be slightly changing the requirements or conditions of a piece of assessment, or simply their understanding that you may not be able to attend perfectly, it can make a big difference with your overall marks. If they don't know you're struggling, they can't help! DON'T PUSH YOURSELF OR OVERTHINK When you realise there's an issue, it's easy to fall into panic or try to power through. Don't do this. It'll just make you more stressed and aggravate the existing problems, which will make things much worse in the long run. Though it's hard to believe sometimes, your health and mental health are more important than your grades. You can't ignore your mind when it's screaming at you that something is wrong. Listen to it, and be easy on yourself. The best way to get back to your full potential to ask for help and give yourself what you need. Take a break when you need one and practise self-care. It's more important than you might things. RECOVERING FROM A BREAKDOWN ACCEPT THAT YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH SOMETHING MAJOR Once the worst has passed, some people try to brush it off and pretend it never happened. They can feel ashamed or embarrassed about what they went through. However, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, especially if you had a pre-existing mental health condition. Every life has ups and downs and just because yours were a bit more serious than some people's, it doesn't mean that you're weak somehow. The best thing you can do for yourself is to recognise what happened, and work to prevent it from happening again by setting up crisis plans and support networks. GET TUTORING TO CATCH UP If you've fallen behind, don't worry. There are plenty of ways to catch yourself up and get back on track. The best way is to hire a tutor. They can guide you through the work, help you understand difficult concepts, and identify the places you need more help. Yes, tutors can be expensive, but there's a way to get around this. See if there is anyone who took your class the year before who might be willing to tutor you for an hour each week for a discounted prince. Similarly, see if there are any students who can help you in exchange for something like instrument lessons. And if any of your friends are academically gifted, I'm sure they'd be able to help. If all else fails, go to office hours and any free tutoring sessions your school or university offers. Do some research, ask around, see what's there. PACE YOURSELF AND DON'T RUSH IN After a breakdown or crisis, you may be tempted to throw yourself back into your work to catch up. Don't! You'll become overwhelmed and end up back at square one. Remember, you've just been through a very difficult situation and you're not going to get better overnight. Ease yourself in. I definitely recommend starting with a reduced or part-time study load if possible. Remember that you may not be back at your full capacity just yet, and difficulties concentrating and being motivated could make things hard. By starting off slowly, you're able to get used to studying again without too much pressure. DEVELOP A ROUTINE Yes, this advice is in every piece of study advice ever, but you shouldn't develop just any routine. Develop one that allows you plenty of breaks and takes into consider any issues you may have with fatigue or focusing. If your breakdown was caused by overwork, make sure this one is easier on you. Things to include you could include in a healthy routine (but don't micromanage!): "I feel crap" time* Breaks and meals Plenty of sleep and rest "You" time (treat yo self) Time to plan for the next week Exercise (have you tried yoga? Kidding) Meditation/mindfulness Friend/family social time * Remember that the thoughts and feelings caused by mental illness are not shameful, and ignoring and forcing them down will only make them worse. If you need to lie in bed feeling miserable, do it. THINGS TO REMEMBER DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS It can be easy to look at other people and see your own flaws, but it's important to try not to. Every person has different experiences and struggles, so it's not fair to yourself to look at someone without yours and think you're behind in some way. Taking longer to complete your studies isn't shameful. Making mistakes isn't shameful. Needing breaks isn't shameful. You'll get where you need to be in the end. Have patience. GRADES DON'T DEFINE YOU I spent so much of my life thinking my only worth came from my academic success. And guess what? This just led to more anxiety and depression. It's important to realise that things like grades, class rankings, GPAS, and "intelligence" aren't that important. Who you are and what you do is far more important than these arbitrary labels. THERE IS A STIGMA, SO BE PREPARED It's an unfortunate reality, but there is still a stigma against mental health issues and there is a chance it might affect your experiences while dealing with administrative staff and teachers. There have been stories about people telling their people supposed to be guiding them that they have mental health issues, and being dismissed because "it's a girl issue" or "it's all in their head". Be prepared in case this happens to you. Remind people that it's a medical condition and that you can get proof from medical professionals if need be. Plus, there is probably something in your school's policies or even the law that protects you when you have a mental illness. Remember that just because people are ignorant, that doesn't mean your issue is not 100% real and important. Don't let these people make you feel worse. YOU CAN DO THIS In our darkest moments, it can be hard to believe that we're capable of immense strength, but I promise you we are. Whatever obstacle is in your path right now - even if it's your brain chemistry - you are going to get through this. You've made it through every worst day you've had so far. You've made it through the dark and scary moments, and you've come out the other end stronger and wiser. Remember that you are strong, and even when you don't feel like it, there is always support available to help you realise that strength again. tmblimteom apricot-studies: smartstudy: Hey guys. I’m glad to be finally posting my “mental breakdown survival guide”. As you know I struggle a lot with mental health, and so I have been through a lot of breakdowns. So many that I actually dropped out of university after 3 weeks in 2016 and had to take the whole year off. Because of this, I’ve made it my mission to help others with mental health issues as much as I can, so you don’t have to go through what I’ve been through. Anyway, here is my guide. I tried to keep it general, and actually useful. If you have any questions or additions please feel free to add them. And as ever, if you want to talk to me about studying with mental illness or want to see a post on a specific topic, please feel free to message me. thank you so much for this
stigma: Saving Your Grades From
 A Mental Health Crisis
 What To Do Before, During, And After
 by SmartStudy.tumblr.com

 IF YOUR GRADES ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER
 CONTACT YOUR TEACHERS
 This should be the first thing you do when you realise you're in crisis. Email them, and explain your
 situation in short, professional terms. You do not have to include details about your condition. "I have
 a mental health condition" should suffice as to the nature of the issue.
 Tell them that you are going to arrange to see a medical professional as soon as possible, and ask what
 process you should go through to defer/get an extension on assessment, and if they can help you in
 any way.
 Other people you may have to contact or CC in the email (depending on your school):
 University
 High School
 Head of House
 Class Coordinator
 Faculty/School Admin
 Disability Advisor
 Grade Coordinator
 Head of Department
 Academic Admin
 Counsellor
 School Counsellor
 Student Advocate
 BOOK A DOCTOR/THERAPIST APPOINTMENT ASAP
 This will be the person who can vouch for you the most. It's best if you have seen them before and
 they know you. If you can't get an appointment within a few days, call them and email them (if you
 haven't seen them before this will not work). Make sure to check out what counselling your university
 or school offers.
 During this appointment, the priority is to make a plan to get you back on your feet. This effort will
 not be useful if you stay a mess. Once you've figured that out, get two things from this person. One is
 a medical certificate/letter stating that you have, in fact, been going through this crisis. Second is a
 letter that describes the nature of the crisis, what treatment you're going through, and which people
 to contact (psychiatrists, etc.) who can vouch for this.
 Note: The reason I say to get two letters is because there is still a huge stigma around mental illness,
 and you don't want to reveal that you've got a disorder that's highly stigmatised, only to have it come
 back and bite you in the ass later. Don't provide details unless it's necessary or asked for.
 A STUDENT
 KNOW YOUR RIGHTS AS
 Most schools and institutions will have a list of a student's rights and responsibilities online. Look them
 up. Know what your rights are as a student. Also look to see if there are state/national laws protecting
 you, or if your school is a part of a network of schools that has its own code. Some people working in
 schools still think mental health issues are trivial, and you never know when they're going to ignore a
 rule to suit themselves. Make sure you can pick on this if it happens to you.
 Pretty much all schools will have protection in place for students with mental illnesses and disabilities,
 so even if you a miss a deadline for a form or make another mistake, they should take your exceptional
 circumstances into account. This is where a student or disability advisor from school can help you.
 ottom

 IF YOU HAVEN'T REACHED CRISIS YET
 TALK TO A DOCTOR/THERAPIST/COUNSELLOR/TRUSTED ADULT
 If you're going through a hard time, talk to someone who can help you. Any trusted adult or
 professional can help you get back on your feet before it's too late, or refer you to someone who can.
 If it's a new issue, you'll have to see someone like a GP who can refer you to a therapist or mental
 health service.
 Talk to them about what's been happening, and say that you need help. Sometimes, even talking
 about the problem can help you feel better. In these situations, they can also help you figure out what
 you can do at school to catch up/get special help.
 FIGURE OUT HOW TO STUDY WHILE IN A BAD STATE
 Even if you're getting help, it might be some time before you're fully back on track. In these instances,
 try to make the best of a bad situation.
 Can't leave the house? Access lecture recordings and eBooks. Ask your friends to send you their notes,
 or ask the teacher if you can submit your homework via email, or through a friend. Have trouble
 concentrating? Figure out how long you can study without needing a break, and make a schedule
 around that.
 Always make sure to ask your teachers if they can help you with this. Whether it be slightly changing
 the requirements or conditions of a piece of assessment, or simply their understanding that you may
 not be able to attend perfectly, it can make a big difference with your overall marks. If they don't know
 you're struggling, they can't help!
 DON'T PUSH YOURSELF OR OVERTHINK
 When you realise there's an issue, it's easy to fall into panic or try to power through. Don't do this. It'll
 just make you more stressed and aggravate the existing problems, which will make things much worse
 in the long run.
 Though it's hard to believe sometimes, your health and mental health are more important than your
 grades. You can't ignore your mind when it's screaming at you that something is wrong. Listen to it,
 and be easy on yourself.
 The best way to get back to your full potential to ask for help and give yourself what you need. Take a
 break when you need one and practise self-care. It's more important than you might things.

 RECOVERING FROM A BREAKDOWN
 ACCEPT THAT YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH SOMETHING MAJOR
 Once the worst has passed, some people try to brush it off and pretend it never happened. They can
 feel ashamed or embarrassed about what they went through. However, there is absolutely nothing to
 be ashamed or embarrassed about, especially if you had a pre-existing mental health condition. Every
 life has ups and downs and just because yours were a bit more serious than some people's, it doesn't
 mean that you're weak somehow.
 The best thing you can do for yourself is to recognise what happened, and work to prevent it from
 happening again by setting up crisis plans and support networks.
 GET TUTORING TO CATCH UP
 If you've fallen behind, don't worry. There are plenty of ways to catch yourself up and get back on
 track. The best way is to hire a tutor. They can guide you through the work, help you understand
 difficult concepts, and identify the places you need more help.
 Yes, tutors can be expensive, but there's a way to get around this. See if there is anyone who took
 your class the year before who might be willing to tutor you for an hour each week for a discounted
 prince. Similarly, see if there are any students who can help you in exchange for something like
 instrument lessons. And if any of your friends are academically gifted, I'm sure they'd be able to help.
 If all else fails, go to office hours and any free tutoring sessions your school or university offers. Do
 some research, ask around, see what's there.
 PACE YOURSELF AND DON'T RUSH IN
 After a breakdown or crisis, you may be tempted to throw yourself back into your work to catch up.
 Don't! You'll become overwhelmed and end up back at square one. Remember, you've just been
 through a very difficult situation and you're not going to get better overnight.
 Ease yourself in. I definitely recommend starting with a reduced or part-time study load if possible.
 Remember that you may not be back at your full capacity just yet, and difficulties concentrating and
 being motivated could make things hard. By starting off slowly, you're able to get used to studying
 again without too much pressure.
 DEVELOP A ROUTINE
 Yes, this advice is in every piece of study advice ever, but you shouldn't develop just any routine.
 Develop one that allows you plenty of breaks and takes into consider any issues you may have with
 fatigue or focusing. If your breakdown was caused by overwork, make sure this one is easier on you.
 Things to include you could include in a healthy routine (but don't micromanage!):
 "I feel crap" time*
 Breaks and meals
 Plenty of sleep and rest
 "You" time (treat yo self)
 Time to plan for the next week
 Exercise (have you tried yoga? Kidding)
 Meditation/mindfulness
 Friend/family social time
 * Remember that the thoughts and feelings caused by mental illness are not shameful, and ignoring
 and forcing them down will only make them worse. If you need to lie in bed feeling miserable, do it.

 THINGS TO REMEMBER
 DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
 It can be easy to look at other people and see your own flaws, but it's important to try not to. Every
 person has different experiences and struggles, so it's not fair to yourself to look at someone without
 yours and think you're behind in some way.
 Taking longer to complete your studies isn't shameful. Making mistakes isn't shameful. Needing
 breaks isn't shameful. You'll get where you need to be in the end. Have patience.
 GRADES DON'T DEFINE YOU
 I spent so much of my life thinking my only worth came from my academic success. And guess what?
 This just led to more anxiety and depression. It's important to realise that things like grades, class
 rankings, GPAS, and "intelligence" aren't that important. Who you are and what you do is far more
 important than these arbitrary labels.
 THERE IS A STIGMA, SO BE PREPARED
 It's an unfortunate reality, but there is still a stigma against mental health issues and there is a chance
 it might affect your experiences while dealing with administrative staff and teachers. There have been
 stories about people telling their people supposed to be guiding them that they have mental health
 issues, and being dismissed because "it's a girl issue" or "it's all in their head".
 Be prepared in case this happens to you. Remind people that it's a medical condition and that you can
 get proof from medical professionals if need be. Plus, there is probably something in your school's
 policies or even the law that protects you when you have a mental illness.
 Remember that just because people are ignorant, that doesn't mean your issue is not 100% real and
 important. Don't let these people make you feel worse.
 YOU CAN DO THIS
 In our darkest moments, it can be hard to believe that we're capable of immense strength, but I
 promise you we are. Whatever obstacle is in your path right now - even if it's your brain chemistry -
 you are going to get through this.
 You've made it through every worst day you've had so far. You've made it through the dark and scary
 moments, and you've come out the other end stronger and wiser.
 Remember that you are strong, and even when you don't feel like it, there is always support available
 to help you realise that strength again.
 tmblimteom
apricot-studies:
smartstudy:

Hey guys. I’m glad to be finally posting my “mental breakdown survival guide”. As you know I struggle a lot with mental health, and so I have been through a lot of breakdowns. So many that I actually dropped out of university after 3 weeks in 2016 and had to take the whole year off. Because of this, I’ve made it my mission to help others with mental health issues as much as I can, so you don’t have to go through what I’ve been through.
Anyway, here is my guide. I tried to keep it general, and actually useful. If you have any questions or additions please feel free to add them. 
And as ever, if you want to talk to me about studying with mental illness or want to see a post on a specific topic, please feel free to message me. 

thank you so much for this

apricot-studies: smartstudy: Hey guys. I’m glad to be finally posting my “mental breakdown survival guide”. As you know I struggle a lot...

stigma: Side Effects Follow ECTS @SideEffectsNews Why aren't millennials giving blood? bit.ly/2fRZG5i 5:14 PM 28 Sep 2017 Belinda Blumenthal @philomenapunk Follow because we all gay ide Effects @SideEffectsNews Why aren't millennials giving blood? bit.ly/2fRZG5i 11:29 AM 3 Oct 2017 3,199 Retweets 11,051 Likes agapantoblu: somecunttookmyurl: creaturethatcries: dr-dendritic-trees: karnythia: voidbat: genderfuckt: optimysticals: the-fury-of-a-time-lord: luidilovins: the-modern-satyr: seedydemigod: captainfunkpunkandroll: the-real-eye-to-see: Didn’t even know people are not allowed to give blood if they are gay That’s been the thing for years. The HIV scare of the ‘80s prohibited us from donating blood. And they still hold that against us despite the fact that that claim has been debunked over and over again. the wording on the paperwork is “Are you a man who has had sexual intercourse with a man after 1980” or “Are you a woman who has had sexual intercourse with a man who has had sexual intercourse with another man since 1980” (this was a blood drive at my college where majority of the students werent Alive in 1980.) I donated all the time back when I was a virgin, because o- , but now I’m not allowed to. So a better question for this article is “Why won’t baby boomers let queer people donate blood, even though all the blood gets screened for HIV and aids anyway?” though, theres a lot of room for loopholes in the wording of it This fucking matters. Bias in medicine is bias that should not exist. Fucking fix it. This is disgusting hey trans people can’t give blood either. was banned from a plasma place for having the nerve to show up and be trans. “we don’t serve you people”. This is one of the reasons why it was painful for a LOT of Queer people after the Pulse shooting. We kept seeing messages calling for blood donations but so many of us can’t donate. We couldn’t even help our own community.  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! as someone who has received money and/or drugs in exchange for sex, i have a lifetime ban on giving blood. FURTHERMORE, my whore blood is so filthy that if you’ve had sex with me in the past year, YOU can’t give blood! and that’s a federal goddamn guideline, folks! If you lived in Europe for 3 months between 1980 and 1996 you can’t donate blood which basically takes out everyone who ever served in the military and was stationed overseas, anyone who studied abroad or anyone who had a job overseas during that period. The Red Cross is always announcing they have a shortage of blood donors but they create the shortage with the byzantine array of restrictions that they refuse to revisit.  Okay, the above stuff is stigma and total crap, we have efficient screens for HIV and things now, the blood will be screened anyway, banning people for their sexual history is completely prejudice and its wasteful, and those rules really need to go. But the last one, the ban on donation for people living in Europe, is actually done for a reason. Its an attempt to limit the spread of vCJD, which we don’t have a way of screening for right now. Last i went you could donate blood if trans, I was openly trans at my blood clinic and they took me. So its probably just that particular clinic, which I say so that other trans people arent discouraged from trying to donate. Also… as long as its the only question you lie on… if theres a blood shortage emergency I really dont see why not lie on that one question. Like its terrible to have to do that and im not trying to make you feel bad if you avoiding donating because of it, but since we know its not scientifically founded it seems perfectly moral to me to lie on that one question if you want to donate. There’s not really a way for them to fact check that. I really never understood why people don’t just LIE “Heartbroken they couldn’t-“ JUST LIE ON THE FORM I’m an openly queer woman in Italy and I’ve never lied on my form, but also, my form doesn’t even ask the gender of my partner. All the questions are phrased “have you had any heterosexual or homosexual intercourse in the past six months?”, “have you changed partner in the past six months?” They are willingly phrased to work for all people because there’s literally no scientific reason as to why straight blood would be safer than gay blood.It’s just a formality. Honestly, you could write you just had an orgy and as long as you claim you’ve practiced safe sex they’ll give you the green card to donate. At most, they mark your sack for a more thorough venereal diseases screening in case you couldn’t affirm for sure that you’re 100% clean.The whole “but after the AIDS scare” discourse is bullcrap. They give AIDS informative flyers to all donors once a year and they screen for HIV all the sacks. Whenever you donate, you get the analysis results back and if you check, straight or gay, there’s always the results for the HIV test. Because medicine knows that straights and gays are all equally likely to be affected, it’s how it is.If you’re gay, you can donate. If you’re trans, the most that can happen is that your doctor allows you two yearly donations, roughly six months apart, if you are having your period; otherwise you’re allowed three yearly donations, roughly four months apart. That’s it.If the forms are like those provided in Italy, you won’t have even have to lie. If you live in some dumbass country that thinks you cannot donate if you’re queer, though, yeah, just fucking lie about it because there is no valid reason that says you cannot give blood.It’s an whole different matter if we’re talking about restrictions based on where you were at X date.These questions are common worldwide because they refer to viruses and infections that cannot be screened. This is not made because the Red Cross is mean and cruel and whatever the fuck; it’s because they cannot be sure your blood is not contaminated and since the blood is going to someone who, it stands to reason, is already compromised on their own, they cannot fight their own battle and add more. That’s why you cannot donate. My uncle died because he was fighting leukemia and was injected a transfusion of infected blood. DO NOT LIE ON THE FORM ABOUT ILLNESSES YOU HAD OR PLACES YOU’VE BEEN TO. YOUR WISH TO DONATE IS WORTH JACK SHIT IF YOU CONTAMINATE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU WEREN’T HONEST.
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 Why aren't millennials giving blood?
 bit.ly/2fRZG5i
 5:14 PM 28 Sep 2017

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 @philomenapunk
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 ide Effects @SideEffectsNews
 Why aren't millennials giving blood? bit.ly/2fRZG5i
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Didn’t even know people are not allowed to give blood if they are gay


That’s been the thing for years. The HIV scare of the ‘80s prohibited us from donating blood. And they still hold that against us despite the fact that that claim has been debunked over and over again.

the wording on the paperwork is “Are you a man who has had sexual intercourse with a man after 1980” or “Are you a woman who has had sexual intercourse with a man who has had sexual intercourse with another man since 1980” (this was a blood drive at my college  where majority of the students werent Alive in 1980.) I donated all the time back when I was a virgin, because o- , but now I’m not allowed to. So a better question for this article is “Why won’t baby boomers let queer people donate blood, even though all the blood gets screened for HIV and aids anyway?” though, theres a lot of room for loopholes in the wording of it   


This fucking matters. Bias in medicine is bias that should not exist. Fucking fix it.


This is disgusting 

hey trans people can’t give blood either. was banned from a plasma place for having the nerve to show up and be trans. “we don’t serve you people”.

This is one of the reasons why it was painful for a LOT of Queer people after the Pulse shooting. We kept seeing messages calling for blood donations but so many of us can’t donate. We couldn’t even help our own community. 


!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


as someone who has received money and/or drugs in exchange for sex, i have a lifetime ban on giving blood. FURTHERMORE, my whore blood is so filthy that if you’ve had sex with me in the past year, YOU can’t give blood!
and that’s a federal goddamn guideline, folks! 

If you lived in Europe for 3 months between 1980 and 1996 you can’t donate blood which basically takes out everyone who ever served in the military and was stationed overseas, anyone who studied abroad or anyone who had a job overseas during that period. The Red Cross is always announcing they have a shortage of blood donors but they create the shortage with the byzantine array of restrictions that they refuse to revisit. 

Okay, the above stuff is stigma and total crap, we have efficient screens for HIV and things now, the blood will be screened anyway, banning people for their sexual history is completely prejudice and its wasteful, and those rules really need to go.
But the last one, the ban on donation for people living in Europe, is actually done for a reason. Its an attempt to limit the spread of vCJD, which we don’t have a way of screening for right now.


Last i went you could donate blood if trans, I was openly trans at my blood clinic and they took me. So its probably just that particular clinic, which I say so that other trans people arent discouraged from trying to donate.
Also… as long as its the only question you lie on… if theres a blood shortage emergency I really dont see why not lie on that one question. Like its terrible to have to do that and im not trying to make you feel bad if you avoiding donating because of it, but since we know its not scientifically founded it seems perfectly moral to me to lie on that one question if you want to donate. There’s not really a way for them to fact check that.


I really never understood why people don’t just LIE
“Heartbroken they couldn’t-“ JUST LIE ON THE FORM

I’m an openly queer woman in Italy and I’ve never lied on my form, but also, my form doesn’t even ask the gender of my partner. All the questions are phrased “have you had any heterosexual or homosexual intercourse in the past six months?”, “have you changed partner in the past six months?” They are willingly phrased to work for all people because there’s literally no scientific reason as to why straight blood would be safer than gay blood.It’s just a formality. Honestly, you could write you just had an orgy and as long as you claim you’ve practiced safe sex they’ll give you the green card to donate. At most, they mark your sack for a more thorough venereal diseases screening in case you couldn’t affirm for sure that you’re 100% clean.The whole “but after the AIDS scare” discourse is bullcrap. They give AIDS informative flyers to all donors once a year and they screen for HIV all the sacks. Whenever you donate, you get the analysis results back and if you check, straight or gay, there’s always the results for the HIV test. Because medicine knows that straights and gays are all equally likely to be affected, it’s how it is.If you’re gay, you can donate. If you’re trans, the most that can happen is that your doctor allows you two yearly donations, roughly six months apart, if you are having your period; otherwise you’re allowed three yearly donations, roughly four months apart. That’s it.If the forms are like those provided in Italy, you won’t have even have to lie. If you live in some dumbass country that thinks you cannot donate if you’re queer, though, yeah, just fucking lie about it because there is no valid reason that says you cannot give blood.It’s an whole different matter if we’re talking about restrictions based on where you were at X date.These questions are common worldwide because they refer to viruses and infections that cannot be screened. This is not made because the Red Cross is mean and cruel and whatever the fuck; it’s because they cannot be sure your blood is not contaminated and since the blood is going to someone who, it stands to reason, is already compromised on their own, they cannot fight their own battle and add more. That’s why you cannot donate. My uncle died because he was fighting leukemia and was injected a transfusion of infected blood. DO NOT LIE ON THE FORM ABOUT ILLNESSES YOU HAD OR PLACES YOU’VE BEEN TO. YOUR WISH TO DONATE IS WORTH JACK SHIT IF YOU CONTAMINATE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU WEREN’T HONEST.

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stigma: this-tragic-affair Charities/organisations to avoid: PETA: They'd rather spend their money on publicity campaigns than on the animals in their care. PETA killed 73.8% of the animals in their care in 2015 (x) FCKH8: Is a for-profit company that exploits oppressed groups for money. They're also wildly uninformed, and spread misogyny, cissexism and bi/panphobia, as well as stealing their posts/designs (x) Autism Speaks: They spend most of their money on researching a way to eliminate autism, heighten the stigma against autism and don't have a single autistic person on their board (x) Please support other, better charities, and feel free to add any others you can think of to this paintedspectres Susan G. Komen for the Cure: CEO makes insane amounts of money, they deny a lot of requests for wigs/help with treatment/etc., and have attempted to sue other charities that use the color pink as part of their anti-breast cancer campaign. xx) prochoice-or-gtfo The Salvation Army: They promote the hatred of LGBT+ people, work with fundamentalist Christian groups to support conservative politics and rip off and exploit workers. (xxx) shitpost-senpai Wounded Warrior: They take money that should be spent on veterans and blow it on huge opulent parties for the company bigwigs. 26 million in 2014 alone wasted! x x) thefingerfuckingfemalefury Important reminder to NOT waste any money donating to these groups ayellowbirds Reblogging because of the added info about Wounded Warrior. arch4ngel A good way to know if a nonprofit you're donating to is allocating their money in the right way is to check out their Charity Navigator darkbookworm13 Signal boosting, the bell ringers are out in force, and this info is too important ayamccabre Depending on where you are, charity budgets may be public. There's a good chance you can find out exactly where the money is going fuck all these “charities”
stigma: this-tragic-affair
 Charities/organisations to
 avoid:
 PETA: They'd rather spend their money on
 publicity campaigns than on the animals in their
 care. PETA killed 73.8% of the animals in their
 care in 2015 (x)
 FCKH8: Is a for-profit company that exploits
 oppressed groups for money. They're also
 wildly uninformed, and spread misogyny,
 cissexism and bi/panphobia, as well as stealing
 their posts/designs (x)
 Autism Speaks: They spend most of their
 money on researching a way to eliminate
 autism, heighten the stigma against autism and
 don't have a single autistic person on their
 board (x)
 Please support other, better charities, and feel
 free to add any others you can think of to this
 paintedspectres
 Susan G. Komen for the Cure: CEO makes
 insane amounts of money, they deny a lot of
 requests for wigs/help with treatment/etc., and
 have attempted to sue other charities that use
 the color pink as part of their anti-breast
 cancer campaign. xx)
 prochoice-or-gtfo
 The Salvation Army: They promote the hatred
 of LGBT+ people, work with fundamentalist
 Christian groups to support conservative
 politics and rip off and exploit workers. (xxx)
 shitpost-senpai
 Wounded Warrior: They take money that
 should be spent on veterans and blow it on
 huge opulent parties for the company bigwigs.
 26 million in 2014 alone wasted! x x)
 thefingerfuckingfemalefury
 Important reminder to NOT waste any money
 donating to these groups
 ayellowbirds
 Reblogging because of the added info about
 Wounded Warrior.
 arch4ngel
 A good way to know if a nonprofit you're
 donating to is allocating their money in the right
 way is to check out their Charity Navigator
 darkbookworm13
 Signal boosting, the bell ringers are out in
 force, and this info is too important
 ayamccabre
 Depending on where you are, charity budgets
 may be public. There's a good chance you can
 find out exactly where the money is going
fuck all these “charities”

fuck all these “charities”

stigma: Kate Crawford @katecrawford Following Meanwhile, Amazon's latest patent is for Alexa to detect when people are sick, bored or unhappy. "Alexa would listen out for if users are crying and then class them as experiencing an "emotional abnormality telegraph.co.uk/technology/201 132 130 Alexa, "cough I'm hung sniffle 120 100 Would you lke a recipe for chicken soup? No, thanks 134 Ok, I can find you something else. By the way, would you like o order cough drops with 1 hour delivery? That wouki be awesome Thanks for asking! 110 No probiem. Pil email you an order confirmation. Feel better! 7:54 AM 10 Oct 2018 570 Retweets 655 Likes imaginedsoldier: the-tired-tenor: tankies: Me: *crying* Alexa: This seems sad, now playing Despacito Y’all need to have a greater degree of 1- healthy suspicion in Alexa and corporate surveillance devices personal assistants, and 2- understanding of how dangerous this kind of algorithm is in the hands of a multinational company (and anyone for that matter.)  To begin with, that data is both available for sale and able to be subpoenaed by the government. Alexa’s records and recordings have already been used in criminal trials. In the US, a digital record of your emotional patterns can be used to deny you housing, jobs, and to rule on your ability to exercise your basic rights. Consider that psychiatric stigma and misdiagnosis can already be wielded against you in legal disputes and the notion of a listening device capable of identifying signs of distress for the purpose of marketing to you should be made more clearly concerning.  Moreover we have already seen the use of algorithms like this on Facebook and other “self-reporting” (read: user input) sites capable of identifying the onset of a manic episode [1] [2] [3], which have been subsequently been linked to identifying vulnerable (high-spending) periods to target ads at these users, perhaps most famously in selling tickets to Vegas (identified in a TedTalk by  techno-sociological scholar Zeynep Tufekci where she more generally discusses algorithms and how they shape our online experiences to suggest and reinforce biases).  The notes on this post are super concerning- we are being marketed to under the guise of having our emotional needs attended to by the same people who inflicted that emptiness on us, and everyone is just memeing.
stigma: Kate Crawford
 @katecrawford
 Following
 Meanwhile, Amazon's latest patent is for
 Alexa to detect when people are sick, bored
 or unhappy. "Alexa would listen out for if
 users are crying and then class them as
 experiencing an "emotional abnormality
 telegraph.co.uk/technology/201
 132
 130
 Alexa, "cough I'm hung
 sniffle
 120
 100
 Would you lke a recipe for
 chicken soup?
 No, thanks
 134
 Ok, I can find you something
 else. By the way, would you like
 o order cough drops with 1 hour
 delivery?
 That wouki be awesome
 Thanks for asking!
 110
 No probiem. Pil email you an
 order confirmation. Feel better!
 7:54 AM 10 Oct 2018
 570 Retweets 655 Likes
imaginedsoldier:

the-tired-tenor:

tankies:


Me: *crying*
Alexa: This seems sad, now playing Despacito

Y’all need to have a greater degree of 1- healthy suspicion in Alexa and corporate surveillance devices personal assistants, and 2- understanding of how dangerous this kind of algorithm is in the hands of a multinational company (and anyone for that matter.) 
To begin with, that data is both available for sale and able to be subpoenaed by the government. Alexa’s records and recordings have already been used in criminal trials. In the US, a digital record of your emotional patterns can be used to deny you housing, jobs, and to rule on your ability to exercise your basic rights. Consider that psychiatric stigma and misdiagnosis can already be wielded against you in legal disputes and the notion of a listening device capable of identifying signs of distress for the purpose of marketing to you should be made more clearly concerning. 
Moreover we have already seen the use of algorithms like this on Facebook and other “self-reporting” (read: user input) sites capable of identifying the onset of a manic episode [1] [2] [3], which have been subsequently been linked to identifying vulnerable (high-spending) periods to target ads at these users, perhaps most famously in selling tickets to Vegas (identified in a TedTalk by  techno-sociological scholar Zeynep Tufekci where she more generally discusses algorithms and how they shape our online experiences to suggest and reinforce biases). 
The notes on this post are super concerning- we are being marketed to under the guise of having our emotional needs attended to by the same people who inflicted that emptiness on us, and everyone is just memeing.

imaginedsoldier: the-tired-tenor: tankies: Me: *crying* Alexa: This seems sad, now playing Despacito Y’all need to have a greater de...

stigma: The counter giri told me birth ol anyway I was I thad sex without a condom, but IIm on the pime Stim, l left Walmart immediately to purchase Plan B the guy's house& drove to 45 & in a locked case, btw Employee an] old woman shot a look, only said God have mercy' after I smiled/thenked (her" "The first time ltried to go on contraception.. sald he wouldnt prescribe ft, as it would promote promiseuous activity the doctor Ivisited NDC 51285-942-88 PlanB Rx only for womern younger than age 17 pill the pharmacist scowled, scoffed and loudly asked if I wanted the generie, ['d have to responsible and take two pills over 12 hours, she sald, but it would save me a few bucks in the end. morning-after e Tablet the phrase "Whenluttered' tected sex sooner you tak etter Plan B be more save-me-grunkle-ford: roseynopes: stylemic: What it’s like to be slut-shamed when buying birth control Even when pharmacists do let people access contraception, whether emergency contraception or condoms or prescription birth control pills, the process isn’t always free of judgment. In a series of recent online discussions, people across the country have begun to share stories of the stigma they’ve experienced. As many have pointed out, this can be especially damaging to teens. DO YOU SEE THIS? PHARMACY EMPLOYEES IN THE U.S. ARE NOT LEGALLY ALLOWED TO DO THIS. THAT GOES FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE FRONT AS WELL AS PEOPLE IN WHITE COATS BEHIND THE CAGE. If an employee in a pharmacy makes a snide comment - Front store workers, pharmacists, or Pharmacy Techs give you shit? Gently (Or not so gently) remind them that the waiver they signed upon being hired legally binds them from commenting on your purchase, as it is a violation of privacy laws. Doing so is grounds for INSTANT termination and hefty fines. Pharmacy workers (white coats) are legally obligated to ASK if you need an explanation of how medication works and any side effects, any medication conflicts etc. If you decline, THEY ARE NOT ALLOWED AT ALL TO MAKE SNIDE REMARKS OR FARTHER COMMENT ON YOUR PURCHASE. FRONT STORE EMPLOYEES CAN NOT AT ALL COMMENT IN ANY WAY, IN ANY STORE WITH A PHARMACY IN IT. Know your rights. If this shit happens? Call them the fuck out and ask to speak to a manager. Get worked up. Cause a scene. Threaten a Lawsuit. If you see this happening to someone else, and they seem to be struggling, speak up for them.  As a Pharmacy worker, you bet your ass I’ll protect you and your privacy. IT’S MY JOB. REBLOG THIS I DONT CARE WHAT YOUR BLOG IS THIS IS SOMETHING EVERYONE SHOULD SEE
stigma: The counter giri told me
 birth
 ol anyway
 I was

 I thad sex without a condom, but IIm on the
 pime Stim, l left
 Walmart immediately to purchase Plan B
 the guy's house& drove to
 45 & in a locked case, btw Employee
 an] old woman shot a look, only said God
 have mercy' after I smiled/thenked (her"

 "The first time ltried to go on
 contraception..
 sald he wouldnt prescribe ft, as it
 would promote promiseuous activity
 the doctor Ivisited

 NDC 51285-942-88
 PlanB
 Rx only for womern
 younger than age 17
 pill the pharmacist scowled, scoffed and
 loudly asked if I wanted the generie, ['d
 have to responsible and take two
 pills over 12 hours, she sald, but it would
 save me a few bucks in the end.
 morning-after
 e Tablet
 the phrase
 "Whenluttered'
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save-me-grunkle-ford:
roseynopes:

stylemic:

What it’s like to be slut-shamed when buying birth control
Even when pharmacists do let people access contraception, whether emergency contraception or condoms or prescription birth control pills, the process isn’t always free of judgment. In a series of recent online discussions, people across the country have begun to share stories of the stigma they’ve experienced. As many have pointed out, this can be especially damaging to teens.

DO YOU SEE THIS? PHARMACY EMPLOYEES IN THE U.S. ARE NOT LEGALLY ALLOWED TO DO THIS. THAT GOES FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE FRONT AS WELL AS PEOPLE IN WHITE COATS BEHIND THE CAGE.
If an employee in a pharmacy makes a snide comment - Front store workers, pharmacists, or Pharmacy Techs give you shit? Gently (Or not so gently) remind them that the waiver they signed upon being hired legally binds them from commenting on your purchase, as it is a violation of privacy laws. Doing so is grounds for INSTANT termination and hefty fines.
Pharmacy workers (white coats) are legally obligated to ASK if you need an explanation of how medication works and any side effects, any medication conflicts etc. If you decline, THEY ARE NOT ALLOWED AT ALL TO MAKE SNIDE REMARKS OR FARTHER COMMENT ON YOUR PURCHASE. FRONT STORE EMPLOYEES CAN NOT AT ALL COMMENT IN ANY WAY, IN ANY STORE WITH A PHARMACY IN IT.
Know your rights. If this shit happens? Call them the fuck out and ask to speak to a manager. Get worked up. Cause a scene. Threaten a Lawsuit. If you see this happening to someone else, and they seem to be struggling, speak up for them.  
As a Pharmacy worker, you bet your ass I’ll protect you and your privacy. IT’S MY JOB.


REBLOG THIS
I DONT CARE WHAT YOUR BLOG IS
THIS IS SOMETHING EVERYONE SHOULD SEE

save-me-grunkle-ford: roseynopes: stylemic: What it’s like to be slut-shamed when buying birth control Even when pharmacists do let peo...

stigma: O4G16:36 YUP V yup-that-exists Libraries in LA are starting to let kids read to pay off their late fees. Each hour they spend reading knocks off $5 from their balance. The idea has exploded, having 100 kids a week reading away their debt and over 3,500 accounts cleared during the first six months of the program. YUP Follow us on Instagram too: https://www.instagram.com/yup.that.exists pup-rusty Can we figure out a way to do this to student loan debt. imthehuggernaut O O4G16:36 imthehuggernaut I would read Ayn Rand to pay down my student loans colt-kun Our library ran the expenses and realized we spent about 3,000$ MORE than what we got back in trying to collect late fees. So? We dropped them completely. No late fees. Period If you keep a book, it auto renews two times. Then it comes up as overdue. If your overdue items exceed a certain amount, your account freezes. You can't use any of the local libraries anymore until you return the items or claim them lost and pay for them. If someone else is waiting for the book, you can't renew. Its that simple. And guess what. Not only did we save money, but we / got more materials back/. More materials were turned in than declared lost as compared to before. There was no stigma to it. If you had already paid for the item, the money was credited back to you Because the people late fees actually affected were children and elderly adults - people unable to regularly get to the library. And the stigma of late items was dropped. Attitude and mindset are important. we still have no late fees. And we are considered to be one of the top public systems in our state. People from 00 4G . 16:37 dropped. Attitude and mindset are important. we still have no late fees. And we are considered to be one of the top public systems in our state. People from out of state PAY to get library cards for a year because our online Overdrive system is amazing, and we have a ton of partnerships and interlibrary loan systems in place. AND we suffer less losses of both materials and patrons due to our "no late fee" policy Serve your public. Don't belittle them Fuente: yup-that-exists 82,689 notas ourclosetistorclothes homoluthor marvelheroes ¿Dónde está la biblioteca?
stigma: O4G16:36
 YUP V
 yup-that-exists
 Libraries in LA are starting to let kids read
 to pay off their late fees. Each hour they
 spend reading knocks off $5 from their
 balance. The idea has exploded, having
 100 kids a week reading away their debt
 and over 3,500 accounts cleared during
 the first six months of the program.
 YUP
 Follow us on Instagram too:
 https://www.instagram.com/yup.that.exists
 pup-rusty
 Can we figure out a way to do this to student loan debt.
 imthehuggernaut

 O O4G16:36
 imthehuggernaut
 I would read Ayn Rand to pay down my student loans
 colt-kun
 Our library ran the expenses and realized we spent
 about 3,000$ MORE than what we got back in trying to
 collect late fees. So? We dropped them completely. No
 late fees. Period
 If you keep a book, it auto renews two times. Then it
 comes up as overdue. If your overdue items exceed a
 certain amount, your account freezes. You can't use any
 of the local libraries anymore until you return the items
 or claim them lost and pay for them. If someone else is
 waiting for the book, you can't renew. Its that simple.
 And guess what. Not only did we save money, but we /
 got more materials back/. More materials were turned
 in than declared lost as compared to before. There was
 no stigma to it. If you had already paid for the item, the
 money was credited back to you
 Because the people late fees actually affected were
 children and elderly adults - people unable to regularly
 get to the library. And the stigma of late items was
 dropped. Attitude and mindset are important.
 we still have no late fees. And we are considered to be
 one of the top public systems in our state. People from

 00
 4G
 . 16:37
 dropped. Attitude and mindset are important.
 we still have no late fees. And we are considered to be
 one of the top public systems in our state. People from
 out of state PAY to get library cards for a year because
 our online Overdrive system is amazing, and we have
 a ton of partnerships and interlibrary loan systems in
 place. AND we suffer less losses of both materials and
 patrons due to our "no late fee" policy
 Serve your public. Don't belittle them
 Fuente: yup-that-exists
 82,689 notas
 ourclosetistorclothes
 homoluthor
 marvelheroes
¿Dónde está la biblioteca?

¿Dónde está la biblioteca?

stigma: <p><a href="http://givemeyourtired.tumblr.com/post/173937568616/whyyoustabbedme-its-so-refreshing-seeing-a" class="tumblr_blog">givemeyourtired</a>:</p><blockquote> <p><a href="https://whyyoustabbedme.tumblr.com/post/173926075757/its-so-refreshing-seeing-a-black-mother-be-so" class="tumblr_blog">whyyoustabbedme</a>:</p> <blockquote> <figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="121" data-orig-width="578"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/7afd28d70d45b61eff9825fa5b4ad414/tumblr_inline_p8rnf6WHcC1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="121" data-orig-width="578"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="412" data-orig-width="580"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/ff5ffd7515af075259ddccd95a0d0131/tumblr_inline_p8rnf7TS0k1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="412" data-orig-width="580"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="446" data-orig-width="577"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/e623d9ec30eeb5d6abf10a0c3ccda4a4/tumblr_inline_p8rnf9w5yu1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="446" data-orig-width="577"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="352" data-orig-width="576"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/78b4c5616df8628af6db87b03dea1b85/tumblr_inline_p8rnf7HvLH1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="352" data-orig-width="576"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="544" data-orig-width="575"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/b5a8cb73e7f9bdc39aebd8473c4dad64/tumblr_inline_p8rnf9KxF21vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="544" data-orig-width="575"/></figure><p>It’s so refreshing seeing a black mother be so open and nonjudgemental towards her daughter especially when expressing her feelings. That’s the kind of mother I aspire to be. #BlackFamily #BlackLove</p> </blockquote> <p>I do wanna talk about one of these tweets because it’s part of the problem and I feel like even though this tweet brought it up, people still gonna pass it by.</p> <figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="397" data-orig-width="623"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/e7b8bcec77fc456c62c59530cc63ed20/tumblr_inline_p8shlh0cHY1rsj1it_540.png" data-orig-height="397" data-orig-width="623"/></figure><p>See, but this is the problem of whole racial communities seeing bad mental behaviours/actions and just chalking it up to “those crazy white people”. When the pass-off “that’s white people shit” is just used for one-off innocuous jokes about real trivial shit, that’s fine, but you also see it being used for big-time psychological shit like this too.</p> <p>And I know no one wanted to make the world be this way for black girls or guys, but it’s definitely a deep-seated issue in the community. White people didn’t make this happen alone, the stigmas against mental health in racial communities held by poc also are a huge factor in helping to cause this. And then people wonder why mental health issues aren’t taken seriously in poc communities. </p> <p>But how can anyone take an issue seriously when no one wants to address it responsibly? Or see it as the non-racial occurrence it is - mental health issues happen to everyone, race has nothing to do with it. Stop racializing mental health issues. A lot of poc blame mental health stigma on white people, but you can’t, you can’t blame others for what is perpetuated in someone’s own community by someone’s own community members.</p> <p>So that’s why everyone, <i>everyone</i> needs to step up for mental health.</p> </blockquote> <p>This is so important. I love that Jada heard her out and didn’t start freaking out or alienating her. It also goes to show how mentally taxing fame at such a young age can be.</p>
stigma: <p><a href="http://givemeyourtired.tumblr.com/post/173937568616/whyyoustabbedme-its-so-refreshing-seeing-a" class="tumblr_blog">givemeyourtired</a>:</p><blockquote>
<p><a href="https://whyyoustabbedme.tumblr.com/post/173926075757/its-so-refreshing-seeing-a-black-mother-be-so" class="tumblr_blog">whyyoustabbedme</a>:</p>
<blockquote>
<figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="121" data-orig-width="578"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/7afd28d70d45b61eff9825fa5b4ad414/tumblr_inline_p8rnf6WHcC1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="121" data-orig-width="578"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="412" data-orig-width="580"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/ff5ffd7515af075259ddccd95a0d0131/tumblr_inline_p8rnf7TS0k1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="412" data-orig-width="580"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="446" data-orig-width="577"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/e623d9ec30eeb5d6abf10a0c3ccda4a4/tumblr_inline_p8rnf9w5yu1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="446" data-orig-width="577"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="352" data-orig-width="576"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/78b4c5616df8628af6db87b03dea1b85/tumblr_inline_p8rnf7HvLH1vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="352" data-orig-width="576"/></figure><figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="544" data-orig-width="575"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/b5a8cb73e7f9bdc39aebd8473c4dad64/tumblr_inline_p8rnf9KxF21vrw6x9_540.png" data-orig-height="544" data-orig-width="575"/></figure><p>It’s so refreshing seeing a black mother be so open and nonjudgemental towards her daughter especially when expressing her feelings. That’s the kind of mother I aspire to be. #BlackFamily #BlackLove</p>
</blockquote>
<p>I do wanna talk about one of these tweets because it’s part of the problem and I feel like even though this tweet brought it up, people still gonna pass it by.</p>
<figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="397" data-orig-width="623"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/e7b8bcec77fc456c62c59530cc63ed20/tumblr_inline_p8shlh0cHY1rsj1it_540.png" data-orig-height="397" data-orig-width="623"/></figure><p>See, but this is the problem of whole racial communities seeing bad mental behaviours/actions and just chalking it up to “those crazy white people”. When the pass-off “that’s white people shit” is just used for one-off innocuous jokes about real trivial shit, that’s fine, but you also see it being used for big-time psychological shit like this too.</p>
<p>And I know no one wanted to make the world be this way for black girls or guys, but it’s definitely a deep-seated issue in the community. White people didn’t make this happen alone, the stigmas against mental health in racial communities held by poc also are a huge factor in helping to cause this. And then people wonder why mental health issues aren’t taken seriously in poc communities. </p>
<p>But how can anyone take an issue seriously when no one wants to address it responsibly? Or see it as the non-racial occurrence it is - mental health issues happen to everyone, race has nothing to do with it. Stop racializing mental health issues. A lot of poc blame mental health stigma on white people, but you can’t, you can’t blame others for what is perpetuated in someone’s own community by someone’s own community members.</p>
<p>So that’s why everyone, <i>everyone</i> needs to step up for mental health.</p>
</blockquote>

<p>This is so important. I love that Jada heard her out and didn’t start freaking out or alienating her. It also goes to show how mentally taxing fame at such a young age can be.</p>

<p><a href="http://givemeyourtired.tumblr.com/post/173937568616/whyyoustabbedme-its-so-refreshing-seeing-a" class="tumblr_blog">givemeyou...