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    nol: Nol
ruinedchildhood:

Mulan (1998) 


    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
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    nol: Feed us
 Oh nol forgot to take my
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 Feed us
<p>[<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/surrealmemes/comments/8aqmkj/h_a_v_e_y_o_u_t_a_k_e_n_y_o_u_r_parsnips_today_cc/">Src</a>]</p>
    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                nol: Feed us
 Oh nol forgot to take my
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 Feed us
<p>[<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/surrealmemes/comments/8aqmkj/h_a_v_e_y_o_u_t_a_k_e_n_y_o_u_r_parsnips_today_cc/">Src</a>]</p>
                
            

            
            
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    nol: get
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<p><a href="https://melonmemes.tumblr.com/post/171732989295/hol-up" class="tumblr_blog">melonmemes</a>:</p>

<blockquote><p>Hol’ up…</p></blockquote>
    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                nol: get
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 girt
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 She gives
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<p><a href="https://melonmemes.tumblr.com/post/171732989295/hol-up" class="tumblr_blog">melonmemes</a>:</p>

<blockquote><p>Hol’ up…</p></blockquote>
                
            

            
            
<p><a href="https://melonmemes.tumblr.com/post/171732989295/hol-up" class="tumblr_blog">melonmemes</a>:</p>

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    nol: I fought I lost
 Nol rest
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    nol: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
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sounddesignerjeans:
princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship isΒ is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners andΒ their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.Β 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real.Β It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible.Β And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people willΒ die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guyΒ says, β€œWhat? You don'tΒ want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potentialΒ girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                nol: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
 2
sounddesignerjeans:
princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship isΒ is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners andΒ their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.Β 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real.Β It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible.Β And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people willΒ die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guyΒ says, β€œWhat? You don'tΒ want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potentialΒ girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

                
            

            
            
sounddesignerjeans:
princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in...