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birthday parties: On behalf of the rest of the United States we also accept this holiday Okayplayer @okayplayer It's official! August 4th will now be known as Barack Obama Day' in Illinois. bit.ly/ BODIllinois <p><a href="https://themilitaryindustrialcomplex.tumblr.com/post/171603577542/libertarirynn-rightwingmischling" class="tumblr_blog">themilitaryindustrialcomplex</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://libertarirynn.tumblr.com/post/171603163994/rightwingmischling-libertarirynn" class="tumblr_blog">libertarirynn</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://rightwingmischling.tumblr.com/post/171602452980/libertarirynn-rightwingmischling" class="tumblr_blog">rightwingmischling</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://libertarirynn.tumblr.com/post/171601630809/rightwingmischling-thevoluntaryist" class="tumblr_blog">libertarirynn</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://rightwingmischling.tumblr.com/post/171595903065/thevoluntaryist-perspectivemax-he-murdered" class="tumblr_blog">rightwingmischling</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://thevoluntaryist.tumblr.com/post/171589116469/perspectivemax-he-murdered-children-just-like-the" class="tumblr_blog">thevoluntaryist</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a href="https://perspectivemax.tumblr.com/post/171588620303/he-murdered-children-just-like-the-presidents" class="tumblr_blog">perspectivemax</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>He murdered children just like the presidents before him. Why should he get a day?</p></blockquote> This is the man Illinois is celebrating.<ul><li> <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.politifact.com%2Ftexas%2Fstatements%2F2016%2Foct%2F21%2Fjill-stein%2Fjill-stein-green-party-candidate-correct-about-us-%2F&amp;t=M2FiMjA3YzlhNzU4NTQyMjYzY2I5OTlkZjlkZDk5OGMwYjc2OTlhNixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">He bombed seven nations at once</a>. Families literally sleep in the same room so if there’s a drone strike they die together. <br/></li> <li>He initiated the habit of <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theatlantic.com%2Fpolitics%2Farchive%2F2012%2F05%2Funder-obama-men-killed-by-drones-are-presumed-to-be-terrorists%2F257749%2F&amp;t=ZmJlNDY5ZjJmYWE2YzRhYTE4NjViYjQxMjQ5YmQ2NzZmNjQwM2M2MixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">designating all males over 17 as enemy combatants if they’re in the area of targets to “decrease” the civilian death counts</a>. <br/></li> <li>He made it policy that <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FAnwar_al-Awlaki&amp;t=YzYyYzBiNTk4ZmFiMzcwMmNhYmQxNmQ3NDY5MmI1OGJjMWJkZjY2NSxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">US citizens can be killed if they’re in foreign nations</a>. <br/></li> <li>He made <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FAbdulrahman_al-Awlaki&amp;t=YWMzMjcyMGJjNmU4NWEwMDRjOTY1NDk3ODhjNWY2YmI3ZWM1NmQ4YixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">teenagers primary targets</a>. <br/></li> <li>He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.snopes.com%2Fobama-deported-more-people%2F&amp;t=MzU2YWE5Zjc4ODVjMzU5YTY3ZmM5MmJjM2FkYzRlOTI4MGFlZmViMyxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">deported more people than any other president</a> back to the violence they fled from.</li> <li> He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.politifact.com%2Fpunditfact%2Fstatements%2F2014%2Fjan%2F10%2Fjake-tapper%2Fcnns-tapper-obama-has-used-espionage-act-more-all-%2F&amp;t=MDhlZDEyMzBjNTUzZDJmM2IzMDZlMmIxZWNkOWY2YTU4N2IzN2U1ZCxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">prosecuted and jailed more whistleblowers than any other president</a>. <br/></li> <li>He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.washingtontimes.com%2Fnews%2F2013%2Fapr%2F24%2Fbush-policies-still-alive-in-obama-white-house%2F&amp;t=MjlhNzI5MmFiYTM5ZDdjNzJkZTkwNDg5ZWViODM0ZDZjMGY5YmViNyxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">continued</a> and <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.alternet.org%2Fstory%2F144449%2Fobama_far_outdoes_bush_in_escalating_war_--_the_numbers_will_surprise_you&amp;t=OGY1MTAxNWY4NmQxMTUyNzViNzdlOTQ4NmNiMWViMzBhZjQ4ZTIyNCxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">escalated</a> <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fthehill.com%2Fpolicy%2Fnational-security%2F243850-obama-signs-nsa-bill-renewing-patriot-act-powers&amp;t=MjY0NjJjMjUxOTNlN2Q4NWQ0ZTJkY2FkOTY0MDMyN2Y4ZTc3NWE1YyxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0"> every</a> <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.pbs.org%2Fwgbh%2Ffrontline%2Farticle%2Fobama-on-mass-government-surveillance-then-and-now%2F&amp;t=NzljM2UxYWY5NTljZTBhN2E4MjExMjA4MjM1ZmQxMjdjNWUyMWVhMixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">one</a> of Bush juniors policies and <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.democracynow.org%2F2016%2F10%2F11%2Fobama_is_killing_yemen_a_yemeni&amp;t=MTFjNjhkZTQ1NGQ0NDdkNGZmZTZmMmFiNDRiZDFmZmM3YTFmNmNmOCxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">associated his name with terror</a> the world over.</li> <li>He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theguardian.com%2Fcommentisfree%2F2017%2Fjan%2F09%2Famerica-dropped-26171-bombs-2016-obama-legacy&amp;t=MWRhNzU2MDJmMTk0YzQ0NDVkMjk4NTkzMGVlNjZmOTkxYzBjYjg4NixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">dropped 26,000 bombs</a> in the final year of his presidency.</li> <li>He was the <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Ftheantimedia.org%2Fthat-awkward-moment-when-one-nobel-peace-prize-winner-bombs-another%2F&amp;t=NjM4NDAyYzczYzcwZDAzZGI4ZDAyYTk4NTBhNWQ0MTM1MDkzMDlkZSxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">only Nobel Peace Prize winner to bomb another Nobel Peace Prize winner.</a> </li> <br/></ul></blockquote> <p>&gt;implying deporting illegas and killing terrorist is bad</p> </blockquote> <p>He killed innocent children you absolute walnut.</p> </blockquote> <p>Did he do it on purpose ? When you are at war civilian get killed. </p> </blockquote> <p>How about the expansion of the NSA? How about ordering drone strikes on American citizens? How about literally every other thing listed up there that you skipped over to go “hurr durr at least he killed terrorists”? Are you fucking serious right now?</p> <p>And to all you clowns saying “other presidents did it too!” no shit. Never said they didn’t. I’m just tired of people kissing Obama’s ass and acting like he’s God’s gift to man instead of a warmonger just because he plays basketball and sounds more eloquent than Trump.</p> </blockquote> <p> “When you are at war civilian get killed.” </p> <p>Yea, maybe, <i>maybe</i> that would be acceptable reasoning in a conventional war between 2 or more nations during times of total war. </p> <p>But the war in Yeman, Iraq, and Afghanistan aren’t total wars, they’re “conflicts”. A good portion of those civilians being bombed have no stake at all in the the wider conflict, most don’t even know who’s fighting and why, they have nothing to do with anything. </p> <p>We just decided to conduct operations in the region for our specific interest and target a very specific group that operates independently from the country’s government and larger populations. We have no right what so ever to kill civilians. </p> <p>That would be like if Russia started putting predator drones over California and said “don’t worry we’re only targeting Bloods”, and then proceeded to bomb random weddings and birthday parties and sporting events on the off chance that one or more individuals in said gathering <i>might</i> be a Blood. </p> <p>And then everyone gets mad and some idiot online says “why are you getting mad it’s a war deaths happen”<br/></p> </blockquote> <p>Exactly. It blows my mind to see so-called conservatives actually defend this trash heap for escalating conflict in the Middle East because “muh dead terrorists tho”.</p>
 birthday parties: On behalf of the rest of the United
 States we also accept this holiday
 Okayplayer @okayplayer
 It's official! August 4th will now be known as
 Barack Obama Day' in Illinois. bit.ly/
 BODIllinois
<p><a href="https://themilitaryindustrialcomplex.tumblr.com/post/171603577542/libertarirynn-rightwingmischling" class="tumblr_blog">themilitaryindustrialcomplex</a>:</p>
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<p><a href="https://libertarirynn.tumblr.com/post/171603163994/rightwingmischling-libertarirynn" class="tumblr_blog">libertarirynn</a>:</p>
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<p><a href="https://rightwingmischling.tumblr.com/post/171602452980/libertarirynn-rightwingmischling" class="tumblr_blog">rightwingmischling</a>:</p>

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<p><a href="https://libertarirynn.tumblr.com/post/171601630809/rightwingmischling-thevoluntaryist" class="tumblr_blog">libertarirynn</a>:</p>
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<p><a href="https://rightwingmischling.tumblr.com/post/171595903065/thevoluntaryist-perspectivemax-he-murdered" class="tumblr_blog">rightwingmischling</a>:</p>

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<p><a href="https://thevoluntaryist.tumblr.com/post/171589116469/perspectivemax-he-murdered-children-just-like-the" class="tumblr_blog">thevoluntaryist</a>:</p>
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<p><a href="https://perspectivemax.tumblr.com/post/171588620303/he-murdered-children-just-like-the-presidents" class="tumblr_blog">perspectivemax</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p>He murdered children just like the presidents before him. Why should he get a day?</p></blockquote>
This is the man Illinois is celebrating.<ul><li>
<a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.politifact.com%2Ftexas%2Fstatements%2F2016%2Foct%2F21%2Fjill-stein%2Fjill-stein-green-party-candidate-correct-about-us-%2F&amp;t=M2FiMjA3YzlhNzU4NTQyMjYzY2I5OTlkZjlkZDk5OGMwYjc2OTlhNixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">He
bombed seven nations at once</a>. Families literally sleep in the
same room so if there’s a drone strike they die together. <br/></li>
<li>He initiated the
habit of <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theatlantic.com%2Fpolitics%2Farchive%2F2012%2F05%2Funder-obama-men-killed-by-drones-are-presumed-to-be-terrorists%2F257749%2F&amp;t=ZmJlNDY5ZjJmYWE2YzRhYTE4NjViYjQxMjQ5YmQ2NzZmNjQwM2M2MixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">designating all males over 17 as enemy combatants if
they’re in the area of targets to “decrease” the civilian death counts</a>. <br/></li>
<li>He made it policy that <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FAnwar_al-Awlaki&amp;t=YzYyYzBiNTk4ZmFiMzcwMmNhYmQxNmQ3NDY5MmI1OGJjMWJkZjY2NSxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">US citizens can be killed if they’re in foreign nations</a>. <br/></li>
<li>He made <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FAbdulrahman_al-Awlaki&amp;t=YWMzMjcyMGJjNmU4NWEwMDRjOTY1NDk3ODhjNWY2YmI3ZWM1NmQ4YixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">teenagers primary targets</a>. <br/></li>
<li>He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.snopes.com%2Fobama-deported-more-people%2F&amp;t=MzU2YWE5Zjc4ODVjMzU5YTY3ZmM5MmJjM2FkYzRlOTI4MGFlZmViMyxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">deported more people than any other president</a> back
to the violence they fled from.</li>
<li> He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.politifact.com%2Fpunditfact%2Fstatements%2F2014%2Fjan%2F10%2Fjake-tapper%2Fcnns-tapper-obama-has-used-espionage-act-more-all-%2F&amp;t=MDhlZDEyMzBjNTUzZDJmM2IzMDZlMmIxZWNkOWY2YTU4N2IzN2U1ZCxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">prosecuted and jailed more whistleblowers than any other
president</a>. <br/></li>
<li>He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.washingtontimes.com%2Fnews%2F2013%2Fapr%2F24%2Fbush-policies-still-alive-in-obama-white-house%2F&amp;t=MjlhNzI5MmFiYTM5ZDdjNzJkZTkwNDg5ZWViODM0ZDZjMGY5YmViNyxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">continued</a> and <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.alternet.org%2Fstory%2F144449%2Fobama_far_outdoes_bush_in_escalating_war_--_the_numbers_will_surprise_you&amp;t=OGY1MTAxNWY4NmQxMTUyNzViNzdlOTQ4NmNiMWViMzBhZjQ4ZTIyNCxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">escalated</a> <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fthehill.com%2Fpolicy%2Fnational-security%2F243850-obama-signs-nsa-bill-renewing-patriot-act-powers&amp;t=MjY0NjJjMjUxOTNlN2Q4NWQ0ZTJkY2FkOTY0MDMyN2Y4ZTc3NWE1YyxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0"> every</a> <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.pbs.org%2Fwgbh%2Ffrontline%2Farticle%2Fobama-on-mass-government-surveillance-then-and-now%2F&amp;t=NzljM2UxYWY5NTljZTBhN2E4MjExMjA4MjM1ZmQxMjdjNWUyMWVhMixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">one</a> of Bush juniors policies and <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.democracynow.org%2F2016%2F10%2F11%2Fobama_is_killing_yemen_a_yemeni&amp;t=MTFjNjhkZTQ1NGQ0NDdkNGZmZTZmMmFiNDRiZDFmZmM3YTFmNmNmOCxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">associated his name with terror</a> the world
over.</li>
<li>He <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theguardian.com%2Fcommentisfree%2F2017%2Fjan%2F09%2Famerica-dropped-26171-bombs-2016-obama-legacy&amp;t=MWRhNzU2MDJmMTk0YzQ0NDVkMjk4NTkzMGVlNjZmOTkxYzBjYjg4NixudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">dropped 26,000 bombs</a> in the final year of his presidency.</li>
<li>He was the <a href="https://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=http%3A%2F%2Ftheantimedia.org%2Fthat-awkward-moment-when-one-nobel-peace-prize-winner-bombs-another%2F&amp;t=NjM4NDAyYzczYzcwZDAzZGI4ZDAyYTk4NTBhNWQ0MTM1MDkzMDlkZSxudjVHdjJkcQ%3D%3D&amp;p=&amp;m=0">only Nobel Peace Prize winner to bomb another Nobel Peace Prize winner.</a>
</li>
<br/></ul></blockquote>
<p>&gt;implying deporting illegas and killing terrorist is bad</p>
</blockquote>

<p>He killed innocent children you absolute walnut.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Did he do it on purpose ? When you are at war civilian get killed. </p>
</blockquote>

<p>How about the expansion of the NSA? How about ordering drone strikes on American citizens? How about literally every other thing listed up there that you skipped over to go “hurr durr at least he killed terrorists”? Are you fucking serious right now?</p>
<p>And to all you clowns saying “other presidents did it too!” no shit. Never said they didn’t. I’m just tired of people kissing Obama’s ass and acting like he’s God’s gift to man instead of a warmonger just because he plays basketball and sounds more eloquent than Trump.</p>
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<p>

“When you are at war civilian get killed.” </p>
<p>Yea, maybe, <i>maybe</i> that would be acceptable reasoning in a conventional war between 2 or more nations during times of total war. </p>
<p>But the war in Yeman, Iraq, and Afghanistan aren’t total wars, they’re “conflicts”. A good portion of those civilians being bombed have no stake at all in the the wider conflict, most don’t even know who’s fighting and why, they have nothing to do with anything. </p>
<p>We just decided to conduct operations in the region for our specific interest and target a very specific group that operates independently from the country’s government and larger populations. We have no right what so ever to kill civilians. </p>
<p>That would be like if Russia started putting predator drones over California and said “don’t worry we’re only targeting Bloods”, and then proceeded to bomb random weddings and birthday parties and sporting events on the off chance that one or more individuals in said gathering <i>might</i> be a Blood. </p>
<p>And then everyone gets mad and some idiot online says “why are you getting mad it’s a war deaths happen”<br/></p>
</blockquote>
<p>Exactly. It blows my mind to see so-called conservatives actually defend this trash heap for escalating conflict in the Middle East because “muh dead terrorists tho”.</p>

<p><a href="https://themilitaryindustrialcomplex.tumblr.com/post/171603577542/libertarirynn-rightwingmischling" class="tumblr_blog">themi...

birthday parties: Jordan Gleason April 1 at 9:06pm This is a longer post, so bear with me... Today I had to explain to a 60 year old man why he was banned from the pub In January he made several sexist remarks about the female staff that were working. He told them to their faces that that he liked looking at their tits while they washed dishes, and their asses while they were pouring drinks. He was told to leave and not come back. He came back last month, and was told we wouldn't serve him. He came back yet again today, and when told he wouldn't be served demanded to talk to a manger l sat with him for a few minutes as he explained that what he said would have been okay 20 years ago, and that it was just some off colour remarks. He told me he had apologized, and that he guessed my servers were too sensitive. He then told me that if what he said was a problem then I should tell them not to wear low cut shirts, and that I should face the dish washing sink away from customers. But since he apologized, he should be allowed to drink in my establishment because he lives in the neighborhood and will bring in business l told him flatly that wasn't happening, and that what he said to those ladies was incredibly offensive. The simple fact that he couldn't understand that just because they were were working didn't mean they deserve his disrespectful language. That these ladies were part of my family, and were human beings that deserved respect. They aren't objects, and they certainly shouldn't have to wear different clothes because he can't be bothered with showing them any decency or respect. "But we're men and they're females. Is cleavage just not a thing anymore?" I told him yeah buddy, it's not, and I won't be changing my mind about having him served. He threatened bad publicity, I told him I didn't care and he left. I work in the service industry, and we get the sheer joy and pleasure of meeting and talking to so many great people in our city. I've met some of my best friends here behind the bar. I live for it man. Connecting people who haven't met, making sure people can relax from a shitty day, or celebrate a great one, or just to simply enjoy a few beers with friends. I've seen wedding proposals, birthday parties, political discussions, deep philosophical debates, neighborhood organization, the absolute works The best of humanity coming together and bonding. That's my JAM. It's one of the biggest reasons l get out of bed in the morning to come in to work day after day As absolutely insanely fun as that is, the dark side of this business is we run into some pretty horrible goblin people. Folks who think that just because we're serving, we don't deserve any basic decency or respect. I've been snapped at, mocked, threatened, and insulted about not having a real job. Anybody in this line of work gets used to a degree of it and develops a thicker skin. Here's the thing though, women in this field get infinitely more disgustingly treated. The sheer number of times they get groped, or harassed, or treated like objects would blow your mind. The worst of it is how normal their harassers think their behavior is. Every single lady in here handles it with grace and aplomb, andI applaud them for it. I've had their backs as we've bounced people out for that trash, but countless times they just deal with it before it even gets to me Sometimes the dudes get so worked up that they demand to see a manager, and I get called in to speak with them. Every single fucking time they attempt to appeal to me solely because I'm a man. They try to weasel in with me about how the women are asking for it. That women shouldn't dress that way if they don't want to be stared at. They attempt to explain it away as just "dudes being dudes." It's expected for men to stare at women's breasts and make jokes about how much they want to fuck them. Wink Wink. Of course you'll understand they think, because you also have a dick. What terrifies and enrages me is how every one of them thinks that this is normal behavior, but also that other men will agree with them Men, we often don't see the level of filth that our friends, sisters, and mothers go through every day. We hope to surround ourselves with people who would never treat a woman like that. We live in a safe little bubble. But the reality of this thing? It's an insidious disease that's happening every single day, several times a day and it turns my fucking stomach So why am I writing this? I want to acknowledge the struggle of every single woman who will read this. You deserve our respect and to be treated with decency I want to stand up and say, I'm fucking sick of this To every dude out there, we need to fucking combat this disease like its the god damned plague that it is. If one of your friends says something shitty about a woman, tell him to shut his fucking mouth. Don't just laugh it off or ignore it. We need to listen when our sisters talk about this, and not just blame it on some bad apples. Not just say "not all dudes do that" or "well no one I know would ever do that." Nah man. This is an endemic cultural problem. If we want to start taking our status as gentlemen seriously we need to do more than just avoiding being a sexist prick ourselves. We need to open our eyes and fight it everywhere we see it, because the only way this thing gets better is to start calling it out for what it is Edit: Sorry for so many edits. I keep finding typos. Writing in anger isn't so conducive to well typed responses rcmclachlan: This is what a male feminist looks like.
 birthday parties: Jordan Gleason
 April 1 at 9:06pm
 This is a longer post, so bear with me...
 Today I had to explain to a 60 year old man why he was banned from the
 pub
 In January he made several sexist remarks about the female staff that
 were working. He told them to their faces that that he liked looking at their
 tits while they washed dishes, and their asses while they were pouring
 drinks. He was told to leave and not come back. He came back last
 month, and was told we wouldn't serve him. He came back yet again
 today, and when told he wouldn't be served demanded to talk to a
 manger
 l sat with him for a few minutes as he explained that what he said would
 have been okay 20 years ago, and that it was just some off colour
 remarks. He told me he had apologized, and that he guessed my servers
 were too sensitive. He then told me that if what he said was a problem
 then I should tell them not to wear low cut shirts, and that I should face the
 dish washing sink away from customers. But since he apologized, he
 should be allowed to drink in my establishment because he lives in the
 neighborhood and will bring in business
 l told him flatly that wasn't happening, and that what he said to those
 ladies was incredibly offensive. The simple fact that he couldn't
 understand that just because they were were working didn't mean they
 deserve his disrespectful language. That these ladies were part of my
 family, and were human beings that deserved respect. They aren't
 objects, and they certainly shouldn't have to wear different clothes
 because he can't be bothered with showing them any decency or respect.
 "But we're men and they're females. Is cleavage just not a thing
 anymore?"
 I told him yeah buddy, it's not, and I won't be changing my mind about
 having him served. He threatened bad publicity, I told him I didn't care
 and he left.
 I work in the service industry, and we get the sheer joy and pleasure of
 meeting and talking to so many great people in our city. I've met some of
 my best friends here behind the bar. I live for it man. Connecting people
 who haven't met, making sure people can relax from a shitty day, or
 celebrate a great one, or just to simply enjoy a few beers with friends. I've
 seen wedding proposals, birthday parties, political discussions, deep
 philosophical debates, neighborhood organization, the absolute works
 The best of humanity coming together and bonding. That's my JAM. It's
 one of the biggest reasons l get out of bed in the morning to come in to
 work day after day

 As absolutely insanely fun as that is, the dark side of this business is we
 run into some pretty horrible goblin people. Folks who think that just
 because we're serving, we don't deserve any basic decency or respect.
 I've been snapped at, mocked, threatened, and insulted about not having
 a real job. Anybody in this line of work gets used to a degree of it and
 develops a thicker skin. Here's the thing though, women in this field get
 infinitely more disgustingly treated. The sheer number of times they get
 groped, or harassed, or treated like objects would blow your mind. The
 worst of it is how normal their harassers think their behavior is. Every
 single lady in here handles it with grace and aplomb, andI applaud them
 for it. I've had their backs as we've bounced people out for that trash, but
 countless times they just deal with it before it even gets to me
 Sometimes the dudes get so worked up that they demand to see a
 manager, and I get called in to speak with them. Every single fucking time
 they attempt to appeal to me solely because I'm a man. They try to
 weasel in with me about how the women are asking for it. That women
 shouldn't dress that way if they don't want to be stared at. They attempt to
 explain it away as just "dudes being dudes." It's expected for men to stare
 at women's breasts and make jokes about how much they want to fuck
 them. Wink Wink. Of course you'll understand they think, because you
 also have a dick. What terrifies and enrages me is how every one of them
 thinks that this is normal behavior, but also that other men will agree with
 them
 Men, we often don't see the level of filth that our friends, sisters, and
 mothers go through every day. We hope to surround ourselves with
 people who would never treat a woman like that. We live in a safe little
 bubble. But the reality of this thing? It's an insidious disease that's
 happening every single day, several times a day and it turns my fucking
 stomach
 So why am I writing this? I want to acknowledge the struggle of every
 single woman who will read this. You deserve our respect and to be
 treated with decency I want to stand up and say, I'm fucking sick of this
 To every dude out there, we need to fucking combat this disease like its
 the god damned plague that it is. If one of your friends says something
 shitty about a woman, tell him to shut his fucking mouth. Don't just laugh it
 off or ignore it. We need to listen when our sisters talk about this, and not
 just blame it on some bad apples. Not just say "not all dudes do that" or
 "well no one I know would ever do that." Nah man. This is an endemic
 cultural problem. If we want to start taking our status as gentlemen
 seriously we need to do more than just avoiding being a sexist prick
 ourselves. We need to open our eyes and fight it everywhere we see it,
 because the only way this thing gets better is to start calling it out for what
 it is
 Edit: Sorry for so many edits. I keep finding typos. Writing in anger isn't so
 conducive to well typed responses
rcmclachlan:

This is what a male feminist looks like.

rcmclachlan: This is what a male feminist looks like.