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Bad, Community, and Crying: Emergency Jaw Sugery Fund Be the first to share Tweet Share thats-tea: thats-tea: Everyone, a woman came to us on twitter to ask for help. We’ve seen her speak about her pain in the past few months of being on twitter. We told her to create a GoFundMe so the community could help and she was nervous to. If you could help her it would mean a lot, and would help her through something she’s been going through for a long time. Here’s her post: “Hello everyone! When I was born my jaw was significantly smaller than it should normally be and my mother was told by doctors that they should brake my jaw as an infant and add an implant so I wouldn’t have to worry about jaw problems in the future, my mother refused so that has what brought me to make this gofundme. I’m 21 years old and I provide for my family, I currently saved over 5,000 dollars by myself, recently I left my job for another opportunity and the other job opportunity ended up being horrible so I need this help more than ever. My jaw/teeth situation has gotten worse and worse in past months as my teeth are growing into my gums and it has effected my sleep and mental health, it’s gotten to the point where I get very bad lock jaw and can barley speak.The surgery itself is 7,600 dollars and in total with the hospital room and anesthesia its 9,910, I’ve already saved half of that. Please help if you can, thank you so much for reading this.” GoFundMe It would mean a lot if you could donate anything you can. If you can’t that’s okay as well, you’d also be doing a lot if you shared. Thank you, and sorry for taking up your time. We’ve personally donated $900. We helped her apply for an influencer job on twitter, and it’s looking like they’re going to accept her, so she’s scared to put her image there or would make the post directly on twitter. She’s nervous it might hurt her in getting the job, since she’s been out of a job for awhile, and she’s afraid if she misses this chance she’d continue being out of a job for a long time. We’ve been helping her get a new job because of the conditions she’s in She’s extremely scared she’ll lose the opportunity if she’s seen by those checking her accounts that she’d lose this opportunity, and we tried to convince her. Normally when people come to us and report they’re going through something, we pay their costs directly. Including rent, food, cellphone/electricity bills, among other things. So we’re constantly spending high hundreds to thousands a week/month. When it comes to situations when the person needs thousands, we can’t/don’t give directly thousands to one person, it prevents us from helping the others who comes to us for help with the money we set aside to help people. Normally take over a person’s problem by paying monthly if possible, if they could make that plan. we had her create this gofundme specifically because she was crying about jaw pain. If this doesn’t work, next month we’ll have money aside to pay for it completely. We had her make this GoFundMe specifically because physical pain was involved. If it doesn’t work here on tumblr, I’ll try and force her to have the post made on twitter/facebook since this is a matter of pain.  We’ve also been helping with her living conditions which we’ll keep private. If she insists, next month we’ll set enough aside to personally pay her entire thing and ask her to just bear through it for this month. Though we never make these posts, In the coming future we’ll be able to do even more for people and our budget limits will rise even more so we won’t ever have to ask the public. It’s only because it’s a current matter of physical pain, it would mean a lot if you can donate anything. 
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Everyone, a woman came to us on twitter to ask for help. We’ve seen her speak about her pain in the past few months of being on twitter. We told her to create a GoFundMe so the community could help and she was nervous to. If you could help her it would mean a lot, and would help her through something she’s been going through for a long time.
Here’s her post:
“Hello everyone! When I was born my jaw was significantly smaller than it should normally be and my mother was told by doctors that they should brake my jaw as an infant and add an implant so I wouldn’t have to worry about jaw problems in the future, my mother refused so that has what brought me to make this gofundme. I’m 21 years old and I provide for my family, I currently saved over 5,000 dollars by myself, recently I left my job for another opportunity and the other job opportunity ended up being horrible so I need this help more than ever. My jaw/teeth situation has gotten worse and worse in past months as my teeth are growing into my gums and it has effected my sleep and mental health, it’s gotten to the point where I get very bad lock jaw and can barley speak.The surgery itself is 7,600 dollars and in total with the hospital room and anesthesia its 9,910, I’ve already saved half of that.
Please help if you can, thank you so much for reading this.”
GoFundMe
It would mean a lot if you could donate anything you can. If you can’t that’s okay as well, you’d also be doing a lot if you shared. Thank you, and sorry for taking up your time.

We’ve personally donated $900. We helped her apply for an influencer job on twitter, and it’s looking like they’re going to accept her, so she’s scared to put her image there or would make the post directly on twitter. She’s nervous it might hurt her in getting the job, since she’s been out of a job for awhile, and she’s afraid if she misses this chance she’d continue being out of a job for a long time. We’ve been helping her get a new job because of the conditions she’s in
She’s extremely scared she’ll lose the opportunity if she’s seen by those checking her accounts that she’d lose this opportunity, and we tried to convince her.
Normally when people come to us and report they’re going through something, we pay their costs directly. Including rent, food, cellphone/electricity bills, among other things. So we’re constantly spending high hundreds to thousands a week/month. When it comes to situations when the person needs thousands, we can’t/don’t give directly thousands to one person, it prevents us from helping the others who comes to us for help with the money we set aside to help people. Normally take over a person’s problem by paying monthly if possible, if they could make that plan. we had her create this gofundme specifically because she was crying about jaw pain. If this doesn’t work, next month we’ll have money aside to pay for it completely. We had her make this GoFundMe specifically because physical pain was involved. If it doesn’t work here on tumblr, I’ll try and force her to have the post made on twitter/facebook since this is a matter of pain. 

We’ve also been helping with her living conditions which we’ll keep private.

 If she insists, next month we’ll set enough aside to personally pay her entire thing and ask her to just bear through it for this month.
Though we never make these posts, In the coming future we’ll be able to do even more for people and our budget limits will rise even more so we won’t ever have to ask the public. It’s only because it’s a current matter of physical pain, it would mean a lot if you can donate anything. 

thats-tea: thats-tea: Everyone, a woman came to us on twitter to ask for help. We’ve seen her speak about her pain in the past few months o...

Bad, Community, and Family: Emergency Jaw Sugery Fund Be the first to share Tweet Share thats-tea: Everyone, a woman came to us on twitter to ask for help. We’ve seen her speak about her pain in the past few months of being on twitter. We told her to create a GoFundMe so the community could help and she was nervous to. If you could help her it would mean a lot, and would help her through something she’s been going through for a long time. Here’s her post: “Hello everyone! When I was born my jaw was significantly smaller than it should normally be and my mother was told by doctors that they should brake my jaw as an infant and add an implant so I wouldn’t have to worry about jaw problems in the future, my mother refused so that has what brought me to make this gofundme. I’m 21 years old and I provide for my family, I currently saved over 5,000 dollars by myself, recently I left my job for another opportunity and the other job opportunity ended up being horrible so I need this help more than ever. My jaw/teeth situation has gotten worse and worse in past months as my teeth are growing into my gums and it has effected my sleep and mental health, it’s gotten to the point where I get very bad lock jaw and can barley speak.The surgery itself is 7,600 dollars and in total with the hospital room and anesthesia its 9,910, I’ve already saved half of that. Please help if you can, thank you so much for reading this.” GoFundMe It would mean a lot if you could donate anything you can. If you can’t that’s okay as well, you’d also be doing a lot if you shared. Thank you, and sorry for taking up your time.
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thats-tea:
Everyone, a woman came to us on twitter to ask for help. We’ve seen her speak about her pain in the past few months of being on twitter. We told her to create a GoFundMe so the community could help and she was nervous to. If you could help her it would mean a lot, and would help her through something she’s been going through for a long time.
Here’s her post:
“Hello everyone! When I was born my jaw was significantly smaller than it should normally be and my mother was told by doctors that they should brake my jaw as an infant and add an implant so I wouldn’t have to worry about jaw problems in the future, my mother refused so that has what brought me to make this gofundme. I’m 21 years old and I provide for my family, I currently saved over 5,000 dollars by myself, recently I left my job for another opportunity and the other job opportunity ended up being horrible so I need this help more than ever. My jaw/teeth situation has gotten worse and worse in past months as my teeth are growing into my gums and it has effected my sleep and mental health, it’s gotten to the point where I get very bad lock jaw and can barley speak.The surgery itself is 7,600 dollars and in total with the hospital room and anesthesia its 9,910, I’ve already saved half of that.
Please help if you can, thank you so much for reading this.”
GoFundMe
It would mean a lot if you could donate anything you can. If you can’t that’s okay as well, you’d also be doing a lot if you shared. Thank you, and sorry for taking up your time.

thats-tea: Everyone, a woman came to us on twitter to ask for help. We’ve seen her speak about her pain in the past few months of being on t...

Target, Tumblr, and Blog: ASKING FOR HELP IS NOTA WEAKNESS cwote.co cwote: If anything, admitting when you don’t fully understand something displays curiosity for learning. So keep asking those questions!
Target, Tumblr, and Blog: ASKING FOR
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If anything, admitting when you don’t fully understand something displays curiosity for learning. So keep asking those questions!

cwote: If anything, admitting when you don’t fully understand something displays curiosity for learning. So keep asking those questions!

Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be more serious, and she was trying to uncover what was behind that. She was actually on maternity leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on playgrounds, and what she saw was this really striking difference in how boys and girls are encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So she did a series of studies with little boys and girls on a playground, and she had parents teach their kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a firehouse. And what she found is that boys were much more likely to be encouraged to be independent, while girls were much more likely to be cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys and girls were equally adept at actually using the equipment - the way parents treated them was very different, to the point where even when boys actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole because they couldn't do it without assistance, and they were left on their own So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls physicallv, the research suggests that it also contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the world is a dangerous place. Because the message that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger is that the world is a dangerous place, and that they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as well Another] study had young children who were told to make a world out of these sand toys with their parents. And what they found is, parents were much more likely to praise their sons when they were being assertive or independent, when they were telling their parents where to put a toy or directing the play. But when girls did that, parents were much more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or dissuade what they were saying. So the message that sends is that you don't have control over your experience, oVer your world annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world. So we’re teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior. This explains a lot of things. Like… why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don’t bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns). https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.
Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at
 the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by
 toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be
 injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be
 more serious, and she was trying to uncover what
 was behind that. She was actually on maternity
 leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on
 playgrounds, and what she saw was this really
 striking difference in how boys and girls are
 encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So
 she did a series of studies with little boys and girls
 on a playground, and she had parents teach their
 kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a
 firehouse. And what she found is that boys were
 much more likely to be encouraged to be
 independent, while girls were much more likely to be
 cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though
 boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys
 and girls were equally adept at actually using the
 equipment - the way parents treated them was
 very different, to the point where even when boys
 actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of
 boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole
 because they couldn't do it without assistance, and
 they were left on their own

 So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls
 physicallv, the research suggests that it also
 contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the
 world is a dangerous place. Because the message
 that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very
 cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger
 is that the world is a dangerous place, and that
 they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of
 vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as
 well
 Another] study had young children who were told to
 make a world out of these sand toys with their
 parents. And what they found is, parents were much
 more likely to praise their sons when they were
 being assertive or independent, when they were
 telling their parents where to put a toy or directing
 the play. But when girls did that, parents were much
 more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or
 dissuade what they were saying. So the message
 that sends is that you don't have control over your
 experience, oVer your world
annaknitsspock:
paulatheprokaryote:

lenyberry:


yayfeminism:
Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world.
So we’re teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior. This explains a lot of things. Like… why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don’t bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns).


https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript


Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.

annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology...

Being Alone, Confused, and Illuminati: Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell @travismcelro Dear everyone, but especially teens: It is perfectly normal to feel frustrated/confused/lost/ anxious/other not-great emotions. Everyone at some point has felt them. More importantly, not only is it okay to talk to someone about what you are feeling, it is GREAT! 9:06 AM 20 May 18 551 Retweets 2,085 Likes Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h If anyone has ever told you to "suck it up" or "just deal with it" or (and I hate this one for so many reasons) "act like a man", they are the ones who are wrong not you. You are not alone and don't have to deal with things like you are Talk to someone about how you are feelina 4 123 750 Travis, Possibly Iluminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h There is nothing "weak" about asking for help or expressing your emotions. Being honest and open is one of the bravest things you can do. Asking for help is a sign of strength and maturity. You are not alone and you are not weak for feelina emotions 4 T, 116 645 Travis, Possibly Iluminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h t doesn't matter if it is a relative, a teacher, a counselor, a friend, a loved one, or a stranger on a helpline, finding someone to talk to about what you are feeling is a powerful and wonderful thing that you can do for yourself! 1 26 480 Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h You are great and you are not alone. I can't say that enough. It is so easy to be surrounded by people and still feel isolated. The first step is allowing yourself to share what you are feelina with someone 4 49 458 Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h One of the best things my therapist ever said to me was "Yeah, you are feeling frustrated. Because this is FRUSTRATING!" That simple normalization of what I was feeling was one of the most amazing gifts anyone has ever aiven me 3 536 Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h I spent the first thirty-plus years of my life believing that I didn't need therapy because l was "smart enough" and "strong enough" to deal with my shit on my own. Mental health has nothing to do with how strong or smart you are Sometimes, you just need someone to talk to. 3 t1 106 672 Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell3h You are not alone and you don't have to deal with thing:s on your own. Don't do it for me and don't do it for anyone else. Do it for you because you are worth it 67 591 Travis, Possibly llluminati, Not Sure How To Tell A few options, though there are lots more 3h @800273TALK (Suicide Hotline) 1-800-273-8255 Crisis Text Helpline: Text HOME to 741741 National Alliance on Mental Illness: 1-800-950-NAMI @TrevorProject: 866-488-7386 @TransLifeline: 877-565-8860 t 115 488 socks-are-love: The McElroy brothers are amazing.
Being Alone, Confused, and Illuminati: Travis, Possibly Illuminati, Not Sure How To Tell
 @travismcelro
 Dear everyone, but especially teens: It is
 perfectly normal to feel frustrated/confused/lost/
 anxious/other not-great emotions. Everyone at
 some point has felt them. More importantly, not
 only is it okay to talk to someone about what you
 are feeling, it is GREAT!
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socks-are-love:

The McElroy brothers are amazing.

socks-are-love: The McElroy brothers are amazing.

Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be more serious, and she was trying to uncover what was behind that. She was actually on maternity leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on playgrounds, and what she saw was this really striking difference in how boys and girls are encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So she did a series of studies with little boys and girls on a playground, and she had parents teach their kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a firehouse. And what she found is that boys were much more likely to be encouraged to be independent, while girls were much more likely to be cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys and girls were equally adept at actually using the equipment - the way parents treated them was very different, to the point where even when boys actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole because they couldn't do it without assistance, and they were left on their own So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls physicallv, the research suggests that it also contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the world is a dangerous place. Because the message that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger is that the world is a dangerous place, and that they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as well Another] study had young children who were told to make a world out of these sand toys with their parents. And what they found is, parents were much more likely to praise their sons when they were being assertive or independent, when they were telling their parents where to put a toy or directing the play. But when girls did that, parents were much more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or dissuade what they were saying. So the message that sends is that you don't have control over your experience, oVer your world annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world. So we’re teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior. This explains a lot of things. Like… why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don’t bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns). https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.
Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at
 the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by
 toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be
 injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be
 more serious, and she was trying to uncover what
 was behind that. She was actually on maternity
 leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on
 playgrounds, and what she saw was this really
 striking difference in how boys and girls are
 encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So
 she did a series of studies with little boys and girls
 on a playground, and she had parents teach their
 kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a
 firehouse. And what she found is that boys were
 much more likely to be encouraged to be
 independent, while girls were much more likely to be
 cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though
 boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys
 and girls were equally adept at actually using the
 equipment - the way parents treated them was
 very different, to the point where even when boys
 actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of
 boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole
 because they couldn't do it without assistance, and
 they were left on their own

 So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls
 physicallv, the research suggests that it also
 contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the
 world is a dangerous place. Because the message
 that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very
 cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger
 is that the world is a dangerous place, and that
 they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of
 vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as
 well
 Another] study had young children who were told to
 make a world out of these sand toys with their
 parents. And what they found is, parents were much
 more likely to praise their sons when they were
 being assertive or independent, when they were
 telling their parents where to put a toy or directing
 the play. But when girls did that, parents were much
 more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or
 dissuade what they were saying. So the message
 that sends is that you don't have control over your
 experience, oVer your world
annaknitsspock:

paulatheprokaryote:

lenyberry:


yayfeminism:
Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world.
So we’re teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior. This explains a lot of things. Like… why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don’t bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns).


https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript


Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.

annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biolog...

Advice, Being Alone, and Bad: Don't commit long term to someone until you've seen them stuck in traffic. Until you've witnessed them dealing with slow internet connection, building an IKEA furniture set, or disappointed from their favorite team's loss. Don't marry until you've seen them completely drunk, waiting for food in a restaurant for entirely too long, or watched them search for their phone or car keys in a panic. Before you say yes to forever, see them angry. See them sick, scared, and focused. Notice when and what they want, when they lose, their patience is tested, and when they are stressed. You can't really change someone, but you can reveal them. Sometimes people didn't actually change later down the line. Perhaps you just never really knew who they truly were. ladylike-foxes: embyrr922: cali-cocaine: this is good I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it. My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration. When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while. See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability. ^^^^This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.
Advice, Being Alone, and Bad: Don't commit long term to someone until you've seen them
 stuck in traffic. Until you've witnessed them dealing with
 slow internet connection, building an IKEA furniture set, or
 disappointed from their favorite team's loss. Don't marry
 until you've seen them completely drunk, waiting for food in
 a restaurant for entirely too long, or watched them search
 for their phone or car keys in a panic. Before you say yes to
 forever, see them angry. See them sick, scared, and
 focused. Notice when and what they want, when they lose,
 their patience is tested, and when they are stressed. You
 can't really change someone, but you can reveal them.
 Sometimes people didn't actually change later down the
 line. Perhaps you just never really knew who they truly
 were.
ladylike-foxes:

embyrr922:

cali-cocaine:
this is good

I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it. 
My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration. 
When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while. 
See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.


^^^^This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.

ladylike-foxes: embyrr922: cali-cocaine: this is good I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, ...

Being Alone, Community, and Family: dddasss Yesterday Guys, I have no idea why but recently, I've been feeling really depressed. But I have absolutely no reason to be depressed. I am actually not joking. I really need help. I have a loving family, great friends, good grades, but I'm fucking depressed for some reason. 151 Reply ItsJustinM 13 minutes ago Depression comes and goes. Everyone has been down at some point and their life. What I would do if I were you is go out and do something exciting. Set up something fun with your friends that will make you happy. Spending time with your friends and family and having fun is honestly the best way to get through a random stage of depression. (The pornhub community is the best community to come to for anything) Hope all turns out well 1 Reply Jmcy11 1 hour ago You aren't alone mate, there are a lot of people that feel the same way you do. Don't be afraid to go to a counselor and seek help, internalizing your problems won't solve anything, I think you should go talk to someone 1 Reply NightDoll 19 hours ago You have a loving family and friends dont be afraid to ask them for help. You're not alone 5 Reply brandJames 23 hours ago I've been feeling the same way, man. Like WalkerTexasNutter (great name by the way) said, find someone to talk to. The brain is a funny thing, and sometimes shit gets imbalanced up there. Don't let it cut your life short It's not worth it. It's never is. 5 Reply WalkerTexasNutter Yesterday Don't be afraid to seek professional help man. I've been there and asking for help was the hardest damn thing i've ever done but it saved my life. Good luck 1 Reply Sexless SexAddict Yesterday All you need to know, really, is that everything starts within the mind. 21 Reply <p>Even Pornhub can be wholesome via /r/wholesomememes <a href="http://ift.tt/2ydirb8">http://ift.tt/2ydirb8</a></p>
Being Alone, Community, and Family: dddasss Yesterday
 Guys, I have no idea why but recently, I've been feeling really depressed. But I have absolutely no reason to be depressed. I am actually not joking. I really need help. I
 have a loving family, great friends, good grades, but I'm fucking depressed for some reason.
 151
 Reply
 ItsJustinM 13 minutes ago
 Depression comes and goes. Everyone has been down at some point and their life. What I would do if I were you is go out and do something exciting. Set
 up something fun with your friends that will make you happy. Spending time with your friends and family and having fun is honestly the best way to get
 through a random stage of depression. (The pornhub community is the best community to come to for anything) Hope all turns out well
 1
 Reply
 Jmcy11 1 hour ago
 You aren't alone mate, there are a lot of people that feel the same way you do. Don't be afraid to go to a counselor and seek help, internalizing your
 problems won't solve anything, I think you should go talk to someone
 1
 Reply
 NightDoll 19 hours ago
 You have a loving family and friends dont be afraid to ask them for help. You're not alone
 5
 Reply
 brandJames 23 hours ago
 I've been feeling the same way, man. Like WalkerTexasNutter (great name by the way) said, find someone to talk to. The brain is a funny thing, and
 sometimes shit gets imbalanced up there. Don't let it cut your life short It's not worth it. It's never is.
 5
 Reply
 WalkerTexasNutter Yesterday
 Don't be afraid to seek professional help man. I've been there and asking for help was the hardest damn thing i've ever done but it saved my life. Good
 luck
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 Sexless SexAddict Yesterday
 All you need to know, really, is that everything starts within the mind.
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kosmonauttihai:
rollerskatinglizard:

ceekari:

stayhungry-stayfree:
This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤

Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.
I frigging needed that.

Failure is not a permanent condition. 

The text on the image:
Maladaptive belief: 

If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.More functional belief: 

If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.


Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).
Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.More functional belief: 

If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.
Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.
Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.
Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.
Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.More functional belief: 

If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

kosmonauttihai: rollerskatinglizard: ceekari: stayhungry-stayfree: This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of t...

Advice, Being Alone, and Bad: Don't commit long term to someone until you've seen them stuck in traffic. Until you've witnessed them dealing with slow internet connection, building an IKEA furniture set, or disappointed from their favorite team's loss. Don't marry until you've seen them completely drunk, waiting for food in a restaurant for entirely too long, or watched them search for their phone or car keys in a panic. Before you say yes to forever, see them angry. See them sick, scared, and focused. Notice when and what they want, when they lose, their patience is tested, and when they are stressed. You can't really change someone, but you can reveal them. Sometimes people didn't actually change later down the line. Perhaps you just never really knew who they truly were. ladylike-foxes: embyrr922: cali-cocaine: this is good I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it. My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration. When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while. See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability. ^^^^This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.
Advice, Being Alone, and Bad: Don't commit long term to someone until you've seen them
 stuck in traffic. Until you've witnessed them dealing with
 slow internet connection, building an IKEA furniture set, or
 disappointed from their favorite team's loss. Don't marry
 until you've seen them completely drunk, waiting for food in
 a restaurant for entirely too long, or watched them search
 for their phone or car keys in a panic. Before you say yes to
 forever, see them angry. See them sick, scared, and
 focused. Notice when and what they want, when they lose,
 their patience is tested, and when they are stressed. You
 can't really change someone, but you can reveal them.
 Sometimes people didn't actually change later down the
 line. Perhaps you just never really knew who they truly
 were.
ladylike-foxes:

embyrr922:

cali-cocaine:
this is good

I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it. 
My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration. 
When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while. 
See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.


^^^^This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.

ladylike-foxes: embyrr922: cali-cocaine: this is good I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, ...