THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BDSM AND ABUSE ABUSE BDSM COMMUNICATION ABUSE GUILT SETUP DEBRIEF AGREEMENT PLANNING EXCUSES AFTERCARESCENEPLAY HONEYMOON BDSM Domestic Cycle Domestic Abuse Cycle Communication Both partners still downAbuse A physical or verbal form of violence and talk about what they would both like out is committed against another persor of the scene They discuss things that are off limits and safety measures that need to be put in place to ensure both people are safe Agreement - Both partners agree to what isGuilt - The abuser becomes worried about on and off limits for the scene playtraining scene - This is the time when being caught and the potential consequences partners can take part in the scene they both discussed and agreed upon ScenePlay This is the time when both partners participate in the activities that were excuses and rationalize in any way they can previously discussed and agreed uporn Aftercare - After an intense scene both partners can be physically mentally and emotionally drained Cuddling and relaxing things the victim has always wanted them to within each others arms allows both partners do This is done to ensure the victim stays in a chance to reconnect as they come down the relationship from the scene This is a good time to drink water and eat food to replenish any spent energy Excuses - The abuser will shift blame make to avoid taking responsibility of their actions Honeymoon The abuser becomes the perfect partner bringing gifts and doing all the Debrief - When both partners are ready they Planning The abuser starts feeling a loss of can sit down and discuss what they enjoyed control and begins planning ways for them to about the scene what did not work in the scene and how they can both do to improve upon future scenes together regain control Set-up - The abuser waits for a time when their abuse can be justified BDSM VS ABUSE PLEASE DON'T HIT ME PLEASE SPANK ME What Is BDSM? What Is Abuse? The use of bodily sensations to elicit pleasureA way to cause physical mental andor emotional damage or harm to another person A form of consensual power exchange where It takes away another person's power both participants are empowered Before anything happens each participant Nobody knows when or how it will happen must negotiate and come to an agreement ad nobody every negotiates or agrees to it happening Creates excitement to see your partner Causes most people to fear and be afraid their partner Destroys any and all forms of trust Creates relies upon and builds trust Is designed to help fulfill the desires of both Is the cruel and violent treatment of another partners within a safe environment person Opens communication and supports an No communication and no support environment where both parties can talk freely about their thoughts and emotions Has rules limits and boundaries that must be Abuse breaks the law! There are no rules respected at all times There are even safetylimits or boundaries It shows no respect measures in place to make sure none aretowards the victim crossed I LOVE SERVING YOU PLEASE HELP ME! WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER TO END ABUSE THIS IS WHY PEOPLE WHO ENJOY BDSM WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE WHAT THEY DO IS NOT ABUSIVE WHEN PERFORMED BY RESPONSIBLE CONSENTING ADULTS BDSM IS NOT ABUSE BDSMTRAININGACADEMYCOM Abuse References httpwwwhelpguideorgmentaldomestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effectshtm asleepwithoutdreams technicolour66 whittyonernc the-quiet-dominant Time to reblog this I think So important now especially since THAT movie will be dropping soon in a theater near you! Not going to stop reblogging stuff like this until that celluloid abomination has been and passed This is so important Meme

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